When, Why, And How To Stop Masturbation Habit
First of all, if you feel like you masturbate too often, cut yourself some slack. Becoming aroused and masturbating is normal. It's only a problem if masturbation becomes a habit that interferes with your daily life. Otherwise, it is an activity that releases tension and can help you get to know what ways you like to be touched and stimulated, which can help in sexual relationships with a partner. But if your habit is leaning towards addiction that you can't control, it may be healthy to learn to how to stop the masturbation habit.
When and why to stop masturbating
Masturbation on its own is not a problem. In fact, it can be quite healthy. But there are a few times when you want to learn to control your compulsion to get off on your own.
You are interfering with your sexual relationship
If you masturbate often enough to remain satisfied, you may not have enough drive left to enjoy sexual activities with your partner. And this can cause hurt feelings for them. It may not be that you are addicted to masturbation per se, but this is definitely an issue that could cause problems for your relationship.
You touch yourself without thinking
If you are constantly rubbing yourself over your clothes or putting your hand in your pants, it can become a real problem when you do so around others without thinking about it. In this case, you may not necessarily be masturbating for climax every time, but this makes it even more of a problem habit because you don't always realize you are doing it. And seeing you absentmindedly rubbing your genitals is not something everyone wants to be part of.
You are interfering with other activities you need to complete
Even if you aren't disrupting your romantic relationship or mortifying strangers and family alike, masturbating multiple times throughout the day takes time away from other tasks you have to accomplish. If you're struggling to complete work or chores because you keep taking orgasm breaks, you probably need to learn strategies for breaking the habit. You'll see your productivity and overall happiness go up when you get that time back.
How to stop masturbation habit
Reducing the amount of time you spend masturbating takes the same kinds of strategies you would use for breaking any habit. Here's what to do.
Find out what's causing the habit
The next time you give into masturbation, ask yourself what drove you to spend your time in this way. Are you feeling stressed and this helps? Are you just bored and it seemed like as good a thing to do as any?
Find other ways to address the cause
Once you know why you masturbate so often, you can institute a different habit in its place. Instead of trying to stop masturbating, you will simply fill your time with other activities so that you don't have time to masturbate. Rather than focusing on getting rid of the bad habit, you are focusing on establishing a new good habit.
Reward your good behavior
If you give in and touch yourself anyway, don't try to punish yourself or feel down about it. Instead, reward yourself when you choose your new habit. The idea is to get yourself wanting to do the good habit and thinking less about masturbation. Punishing yourself only makes you think about it more.
For more strategies on breaking the masturbation habit and how to stick with it, reach out to a professional counselor for assistance.