What Is An Anger Room And Can It Help You?

Medically reviewed by Karen Foster, LPC
Updated February 27, 2024by BetterHelp Editorial Team
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Anger is a natural human emotion that may be experienced when someone feels threatened, annoyed, or irritated. Anger can also be employed as a defense mechanism to shield oneself from perceived threats. As an innate emotion, anger is not inherently bad. Still, it can be problematic when a person has difficulty managing their anger.

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Therapy can be an effective way to manage anger

The ins and outs of anger rooms

The purpose of an anger room (sometimes called a rage room) is to help people express their anger without causing harm to themselves or others in the process. Most anger rooms have objects people can smash, break, and destroy without having to clean up after the fact. Some individuals who have used anger rooms have reportedly benefited from the experience, noting a substantial release of tension and negative emotion.

The controversy

Despite the positive feedback that many anger rooms have earned, there is some controversy regarding their effectiveness. Some people question whether destroying things in a controlled environment is a productive manner of coping with one's anger. 

Some studies show that as a person uses physical acts of violence to temporarily alleviate anger, the feeling of anger becomes linked with acts of aggression, and over time, can result in an increased propensity towards aggression and violence.

Some people report feeling better after breaking items to release aggression. But in daily life, lashing out, breaking things, and exhibiting other forms of aggression can cause a whole host of problems. Thus, many people who seek out anger rooms might do so because they believe it saves them from the problems of "acting out" in their real life.

Things to know about anger rooms

Going for fun is an option

You don't have to be seething with rage to make the most of an anger room. Simply going for the fun of the experience is also an option. If you've never been to a rage room before, then you may have fun breaking and smashing some items. If you're curious about what the anger room experience is like or if you'd just like to get moving and off the couch, then you may have a great time in an anger room near you.

It’s a bonding opportunity

One potentially positive thing about anger rooms is that you can go by yourself or with other people. If you choose to go with others, you may find that breaking and smashing things in a controlled environment can serve as a memorable bonding experience. By spending some time in an anger room, you may also find yourself getting a good workout alongside your friends or family.

Additional anger management is advised

There may be nothing inherently wrong with going to a rage room if you feel the need to do so, but reliance upon anger rooms to cope with or manage anger and aggression might not be effective in the long run. There will be circumstances in life where you can't immediately leave a situation to smash things. Knowing other ways to cope with anger may be vital.

Should you visit an anger room?

Whether or not an anger room is a good fit for you could depend on your preferences. Some people may be better suited for it than others. If you’re inclined to pick up hobbies involving physical activity or like to physically “blow off steam”, then you might benefit from an anger room. Many people who enjoy physically blowing off steam may work out, go running, or participate in similar activities when they are angry.

If you are carrying around intense emotions such as anger or stress, then a visit to an anger room could be helpful. Still, you may not want to become too dependent on anger rooms or use them as your only way to manage anger.

Things to remember about anger

Here are some other ways to manage anger and other intense emotions outside of a rage room:

Find the trigger

Whenever you feel angered by a person, place, or situation, it's important to be able to recognize the “trigger”. The trigger is the thing that ignites the anger and causes subsequent discomfort. Sometimes, identifying triggers may be easier said than done, but recognizing them could be important for coping with them.

Consider that no matter how many rage rooms you visit or objects you smash, if you don't get to the root of your anger, the feeling may return. Some triggers may be avoidable; others may require you to respond differently or learn how to reframe your thoughts about them.

Therapy can be an effective way to manage anger

You are stronger than your anger

Because anger is a strong emotion, it's not uncommon for people to sometimes feel as if their anger controls them. During times when you feel overwhelmed, it can help to remember that you are stronger than your anger.

You have the power to change your life, make a different decision, and change your thinking. Implementing this process is not always easy; it may take time.  But with the right help, it is possible to learn how to cope with anger.

More about anger

Many things can cause anger, and they’re not always predictable. Perhaps the key is to develop strategies for coping with these frustrations so that they don't overwhelm you. Challenging experiences can make us stronger and help us grow emotionally, but only if we learn to manage them.

If you are having difficulties with anger, you're not alone. One 2016 study reports that “the overall lifetime prevalence of anger in the general population was estimated to be 7.81%”, and there doesn’t seem to be any indication that the number is decreasing. But there is hope when people are willing to acknowledge they are having trouble with anger issues and accept help.

Perhaps the best way to begin is by speaking to a therapist experienced in anger management techniques. Admitting that you have anger issues can be challenging, though. An online therapeutic environment could put you at ease and help you open up to a therapist about these challenges. 

Online mental health interventions have also been proven effective. A 2023 study demonstrated these digital methods to be as effective as traditional, in-person modalities for improving anger management skills


When you’re ready to face your anger and learn to manage it effectively, you can begin working with a therapist online via BetterHelp. Sessions can be attended via phone, text, online messaging, and video chat. Connect to a licensed, compassionate counselor to start your therapeutic journey.
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