Can "Jekyll And Hyde Behavior" Be A Sign Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

Updated November 29, 2022by BetterHelp Editorial Team

There are many similarities between Jekyll and Hyde Behaviors and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Jekyll and Hyde Behavior means that a person acts a certain way one minute, only to be the complete opposite the nest. Narcissists act similarly because they are one person while in a social setting or around other people, but when they are alone and with someone they trust, a whole different personality arises.

Whether you know someone who struggles with this, or it is you struggling, there are plenty of signs to watch out for.

Jekyll And Hyde Behavior: The Two Faces Of A Narcissist

If you had ever had a relationship with a narcissist in any capacity, you know that what you see is not always what you get.

There are countless stories online and on TV describing someone who is seen by their friends and neighbors as an upstanding a respectful citizen, while their significant other or spouse paints a completely different picture of them.

This is because for a narcissist to show their true colors, they must be in a space where they feel comfortable and with someone that they feel they can control or manipulate. Unfortunately, many times, this manifests itself in a family home with a spouse or another loved one.

Rather than to show themselves to just anyone, they choose a person that is relatively easy to manipulate and has a more submissive personality to abuse with their Jekyll and Hyde behavior.

Mental Or Physical Abuse

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This comes from the need within a narcissist to exert their power and influence over those closest to them.

Abuse makes the victim feel powerless and small, while the abuser feels mighty and strong. Narcissists are infamous for being abusers because of their deep-seated need for control and power.

No matter what the narcissist says, do not let them blame their shortcomings on mental illness. Abuse and power are not mental illnesses but personality flaws. No one should ever accept being abused.

Even a narcissist indeed deserves love, but if the person closest to you is hurting you, it is ok to love them from a distance. Your absence from their lives could invoke a change within them. If they realize they are hurting others, they may be more apt to get assistance or do what they can to insight a change within on their own.

Jekyll And Hyde Behavior: Has A Heightened Sense Of Self-Importance

It has been proved time and again that narcissists find themselves supremely more important than almost anyone in their circle.

They have an extremely heightened sense of self-esteem to a fault. They will consider themselves as more successful, better looking, and more acceptable simply because they are themselves. Even if there is someone that is living a more lucrative or successful life around, a narcissist will find every flaw to prove themselves better than another.

They will walk with their backs straight, and head held high. Often, they will not be bothered with speaking to or associating with those of lower stature or financial means. Narcissists will want to surround themselves with two kinds of people: other narcissists, and people that they can take advantage of or forced to submit to their will.

It will be difficult, if not nearly impossible, to knock a narcissist off their pedestal. Because they believe themselves to be so much better than others, they will likely not listen to your advice when given. However, you should always try. A word kept in your heart will never see the light of day. You never know when you could make a difference in another’s life.

Takes Advantage Of Others

Because a person with Jekyll and Hyde behaviors truly believes that they are the best thing ever to walk the earth, they will have no remorse for taking advantage of others. Hurting or betraying someone of lower importance seems more like a business transaction than a proverbial blow to the gut.

A narcissist will do any and everything possible to exert their control and power over a person. If this means they must take advantage of someone here and there, they are all for it. They will use you for your money, your cars or your attention. The worst part is, they are often very suave and know how to finesse a person into doing what they wish.

Even if a narcissist seems to have someone else’s interest at heart, this cannot be believed. The goal of their existence is to prove to the world that they are superior. They do not show or feel empathy towards others and cannot be trusted.

Insists On Having The Best Of Everything

A narcissist with Jekyll and Hyde behaviors will always insist on having the best of everything. This can include cars, houses, phones, and other gear. It does not matter whether he or she can afford these items.

The point of having these things is to exert their dominance over others. They use these items as a show of status. If one can afford a fancy car and nice things, this makes them superior to others in extra categories.

When a narcissist is refused the finer things in life, anger and resentment will result. They may resort to violence, assault or other forms of abuse to knock someone else down. They will always take every chance to reassert themselves as superior and all amazing.

Takes Control Of Conversations

Any person with narcissism and Jekyll & Hyde behavior will revel in the spotlight.

In group conversations, they will take control of all costs. If others are talking, you will see a narcissist raise their voice or use other tactics to take the attention off the other person. This satisfies them because if they are the center of attention, they are sure that other people think they are just as important as they believe themselves to be.

Narcissists have no care or use for polite behavior. If it means they will be recognized as even slightly more superior, they will show it. In a social situation, this will be mild and may be difficult to spot. If called out, they may even deny the claim and apologize.

There will be no remorse felt and no holding back. 

Jekyll And Hyde Behavior: Behaves Arrogantly

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Because a narcissist truly believes they are the best of the best and have the best things, they will behave rather arrogantly.

They will display these traits outright and deny anyone that attempts to knock them down. They will point fun at any person that denies them their attention, invalidating them and their feelings.

All along, they will emit a mood of happiness and content with themselves and the life they live. They will show no shame in embarrassing others or hurting feelings because they are confident in themselves.

Has Extreme Difficulty Adapting To Stress Or Change

A narcissist craves an even-keeled environment that is consistent. For them to live to their best ability, they need an environment that they feel they can control.

When things don’t go as planned, this can cripple the narcissist’s ego. It will cause them to feel as if they are losing their grip. This creates feelings of panic because if a person with Jekyll and Hyde behavior fails, they may have to face the idea that they are not perfect or superior to any other person.

Because of this, narcissists are extremely resistant to any change. They will remain in the same relationships, live in the same homes, and work the same jobs for long periods. Once they find the place in their life that helps them to reinforce their worth, they will white knuckle it for as long as possible.

When To See A Doctor

When Jekyll and Hyde behavior or narcissism becomes so extreme that it is preventing the narcissist or others from living their life to the fullest; a trained professional can step in to help.

From time to time, a narcissist with face to face with their problems and want to make an honest effort to change. There is no shame in being who you are, but it is important to realize that we can all improve.

If you live with a narcissist, encourage them to look in the mirror. Many times, narcissists have been a certain way for so long that they don’t even realize they are hurting others. They may believe they add value to the world and peoples’ lives around them.

If you are close with a narcissist, help them to see their faults. Encourage them to make a positive change for the better of themselves and the people around them. They will surely thank you in the long run!

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