Bipolar Disorder And Relationships: Understanding The Challenges And Possibilities

Mood swings can be normal in relationships as people experience emotional ups and downs. In relationships, mood swings can serve as an experience for both partners to navigate the emotional territory. However, if the mood swings become frequent and extreme or affect an individual’s relationships, it may be an indicator of  a mood-related mental health condition—such as bipolar disorder. A mental health professional can provide a proper diagnosis and determine the best course of treatment, and early intervention can be helpful in managing the disorder. 

For partners of individuals with bipolar disorder, it can be overwhelming to watch a loved one go through mood swings. While loving someone with bipolar disorder can come with challenges, but there is also a possibility for love and a healthy partnership.

What is bipolar disorder?

Bipolar disorder is generally defined as a mental health condition that was previously known as manic depression. People who have bipolar disorder might experience extreme shifts in their mood, behavior and energy levels. They can shift between the two “poles” of the mood spectrum; which can include a manic episode (indicated in most via feelings of joy, jubilation and a grand sense of importance) or a depressive episode—which can be indicated by feelings of intense desolation and sadness. These shifts between the two ends of the spectrum can significantly impact an individual’s quality of life. 

Mood swings associated with mania and depression can last for days, weeks or even months of an individual’s life without proper support and treatment. These episodes may also have a significant impact on relationships, as the behavior can be challenging to understand. 

For example: Mania can bring about reckless behavior, increased energy and lack of sleep, whereas depression can bring extremely low energy levels and possible loss of function. In both states, it is possible for the symptoms to be severe enough to impact daily life. 

At this time, the exact cause of bipolar disorder is generally unknow—but is hypothesized to be a combination of genetic, environmental or neurological factors. It is generally important to seek treatment for the disorder because it is possible for it to impact the individual’s relationships, jobs, and overall life without a treatment plan in place. Seeing a mental health professional for an accurate diagnosis can be an important first step in creating an effective treatment plan.

What are possible challenges related to bipolar disorder?

Living with bipolar disorder can present numerous challenges for the person living with the disorder and their partner(s). The person living with bipolar disorder can experience a lot of stress when it comes to core components of their experience—such as managing their symptoms, maintaining stability, adhering to a treatment plan, and finding coping mechanisms that work for them. Individuals with bipolar disorder also tend to face a lot of stigma around their condition, which can affect their overall well-being. Therapeutic intervention can be helpful in addressing this element of the condition.  In the context of relationships and partnerships, partners may experience difficulty in keeping up with extreme mood swings or unpredictable behavior that can be prompted by this condition. 

However, for the person living with the condition, it can be challenging to control the rapid mood swings. Sometimes, the most helpful thing can be simply taking on the challenges as they come and adjusting as a team. Forbes writes about ways to accommodate those with mental health conditions and specifically calls out how to support someone who is living with bipolar disorder saying: “It’s typically important for someone with bipolar disorder to keep their schedule consistent, such as their sleeping schedule. They might need to fly out a day early rather than take a flight that requires them to get up at 4 a.m.” 

Small lifestyle adjustments like this can make a difference in the quality of life that both partners can have in the relationship, despite the possible challenges that are associated with bipolar disorder.

Exploring the possibilities: Loving someone who lives with bipolar disorder?

Loving someone with bipolar disorder can be rewarding.  Despite the possible mood swings and the potential for ups and downs, the possibility of experiencing a deep emotional connection and having a fulfilling relationship is possible and attainable for many. 

Partners of individuals who live with bipolar disorder, for example, might have the opportunity to learn about the condition and what specific struggles their partner might be facing because of it. In this way, they can understand how to love them in a way that will resonate with their specific needs. 

In most cases, people who live with bipolar disorder might appreciate excellent communication skills; When this occurs, partners might end up forging a strong and intimate bond because of the vulnerability the disorder can require. 

Loving someone who lives with bipolar disorder can also allow their partner to explore compassion and empathy within themselves. This experience can provide a chance to deepen one’s relationships and grow as a person. 

Seeking extra help

Caring for a partner who has a mental health condition can be challenging at times, but a partner who rises to that challenge may benefit from increased patience and understanding levels. As those levels increase, accompanying skills like communication, conflict resolution, and active listening can also improve. Many can improve those skills even faster by speaking to a counselor or participating in online therapy.

How can online therapy support partners who love someone with bipolar disorder? 

Online therapy can be accessible in anyone’s home or safe place, possibly offering more scheduling flexibility than traditional therapy can. This can be beneficial for those who are partners with someone who experiences bipolar disorder, as certain phases of the condition may make it difficult to attend regularly scheduled in-person appointments. 

Another benefit of online therapy for individuals with bipolar disorder can be the care continuity that is generally found in the online therapy setting. Maintaining consistent treatment and access to mental health resources is generally important for anyone with a mental health condition, including individuals who live with bipolar disorder. For example: Online therapy can be accessed while traveling or if the client is ill and can’t be around other people.

Is online therapy effective? 

Scientific studies have suggested that online therapy is an effective means of support, both for the people who live with bipolar disorder and their partners. 

One such study aimed to compare the use of different intervention modalities with patients with serious mental illness (including bipolar disorder) during the first wave of the pandemic and found that: “Receiving teletherapy during stressful periods, when in-person sessions are not possible, appears to be a protective factor against hospitalization, particularly in the medium-term. This concurs with previous findings suggesting that over-the-phone and videoconferencing interventions have levels of clinical effectiveness similar to those of in-person therapy.” 

Though the study was focused on the feelings experienced during the pandemic, the feelings of uncertainty, fear, helplessness, and vulnerability could also apply to someone coming out of a bipolar disorder-related episode. Online therapy could also be a valuable tool for individuals living with bipolar disorder (and their partners)—allowing them to feel more confident in how to handle the condition and its symptoms more effectively.