How Do I Know If I'm Experiencing Addiction To Private Chat Rooms?

By Robert Porter|Updated July 29, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Nicole J. Johnson, LCSW

Obsessive behavior and cravings are not limited to drugs, alcohol, gambling, or sex. With the invention of the internet came an unusual speed to access information and entertainment at the click of a button. 

Do You Feel Like You're Addicted To Private Chat Rooms Online?

If you are asking this question, then at least you are aware that you may have an issue with how much time and energy you are investing in online conversations. Do you spend a lot of time thinking about the top places to chat online with people? Has someone told you that you spend too much time in private rooms online? Do you find that you are missing out on important areas of your life because you are too busy talking? If so, then you might need to consider seeking out help in the form of an online therapist for your online chatting addiction. Some people can enjoy these types of online interactions responsibly, but they can be very addictive, and people have put themselves in bad situations due to overindulging in paid private chat rooms.

One way to figure out if you are addicted is to stop chatting. Can you do it? Do you think you can stay away? Does the thought of it make you anxious? If you are not ready to do that, there are some other ideas that can help you below.

Why Private Chats Can Be Dangerous

Certain types of private online rooms charge customers money to allow them to speak to a model or sex worker of some sort. In these private chats, many things can occur between you and the person that you’re chatting with. You might get addicted to chatting with a beautiful online girl or a handsome guy due to feeling lonely and desiring a connection with someone else. These situations are unfortunate, but many people wind up spending exorbitant sums of money on private chat rooms. Addiction has the potential to land you in a bad financial spot, and it could start negatively impacting your normal relationships as well.

People who have become addicted to online chat rooms have been able to get help by reaching out to professionals. It’s important to understand that you are not alone and that this issue is something that impacts the lives of many people. If you’re still trying to figure out if you’re addicted to private chat rooms or webcam girls, then there are several things that you should keep in mind.

Figuring Out if You’re Addicted to Private Rooms

Take a look at the information below, and it’ll give you a good idea of how you can keep track of your spending, while determining if you have a problem.

Keep Records

Keeping track of how often you are online and how much time you spend in an online room is an excellent way to discover whether or not you are addicted. The easiest method to do this is to start an online journal. This practice can also help you to identify triggers, but we’ll talk more about those later.

Open an excel sheet and type in the date and time right before you get online to participate in the rooms. You can make an elaborate table with dates, times, days of the week, etc. Or you can use your smartphone to log it right into your calendar or another planner app. This is easier than it seems when you consider that if something interrupts your journal, you can go back into your computer’s history to find information.

Be sure to write in the time you leave the chat room for any reason, like to eat meals, go to the restroom, etc.

Figure Out Why

Once you see that you may be spending too much time in private chat rooms, you should try to figure out why you are going there. Are you lonely? Bored? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Are you going online when you are drinking alcohol or using drugs? Many people who are addicted have “triggers,” which are events that will occur and make them want to return to the behavior.

Triggers can arise for several reasons. For one thing, the mind loves a habit. It’s a kind of shorthand that allows your subconscious to make decisions quickly and easily. A go-to example is waking up in the morning and brushing your teeth. If the first thing that you do after brushing your teeth is logging into a room, that can become the third link in that chain. Identifying triggers can be challenging because of how the brain organizes information. That’s one of the reasons why journaling can be so useful.

Another cause of dependence on online activities is the same as that of addiction to drugs or even certain foods: chemicals. Your mind often gets hooked on chemicals called “neurotransmitters,” which are released when you perform certain tasks. Some of these are part of the body’s reward system that helps it to identify beneficial activities. When your body connects an activity to these neurotransmitters, your body might essentially forget that those feelings of reward can come from other sources. Even though these chemicals are natural, your body can get hooked on them, leaving you perpetually searching for too much of a good thing. One of the main reasons that addiction is so harmful is that it gradually makes it harder for you to feel happy without using whatever it is you’re addicted to.

Sexual Desires

Of course, many people get addicted to online chat rooms due to having unfulfilled sexual desires. You might not have a significant other right now, and this might cause you to reach out to people in the chat rooms to fill that void. This can lead to several different types of chat that could cause you to become addicted. Private webcam chat rooms were mentioned earlier, and people indeed become addicted to this type of chat. If you are a person who feels lonely or if you just have no other outlet for your sexual energy, then the idea of paying cam girls for attention might sound appealing.

The problem with this is that it can quickly become expensive. A dependence on chatting with webcam girls could cost you a significant amount of money, and it could put you in a bad spot. People get addicted to chatting with these professionals very easily. It’s similar to spending time in a gentleman’s club of some sort. You could spend more money than you want to before you even realize it.

This isn’t the only type of online room that can cause people to become sexually addicted. Even standard private chat rooms can be very tantalizing for sexual reasons. People can get addicted to having cybersex with others based on a desire to explore their fantasies. Sometimes, this becomes a big problem that can cause them to lose focus on other aspects of their life. Depending on the severity of the dependence, you might need to seek help if this is something that you’re going through.

Maybe It’s a Technology Addiction

Despite the increased acceptance of dependence on activities rather than substances over the last forty years, many people are skeptical of the idea of technology addiction. Experts are unsure of what exactly to do with it or what to call it, though whatever it is called, most experts are willing to acknowledge it. “Technology addiction” isn’t in documents like the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, which is used to diagnose psychological and emotional disorders, but it is similar to some more recognized and accepted disorders like behavioral addictions.

Behavioral Addiction is the scientific name for the process outlined above, during which a person becomes addicted to the reward chemicals that their brain connects to a specific activity. Gambling is widely regarded as the first recognized addictive activity, and since then, many other activities and relationships have been proposed, but acceptance is mixed.

What Can I Do if I Am Addicted to Private Chat Rooms Online?

After you discover what your triggers are, you may be able to find other ways to satisfy your body’s cravings for the feelings that it associates with those triggers. In a worst-case scenario, this will simply transfer your dependence to another activity. In a best-case scenario, you will remind your body that it doesn’t need your addictive habit in order to feel good.

Not all addictions are the results of habits—sometimes they develop from coping mechanisms. This is the case for online chat rooms mainly because of the “chat with strangers” phenomenon, which is the name for the recent fascination with talking to people in digital space about your problems. If you are upset, call a friend or a family member and talk to them. This will give you another way to process your feelings outside of the chat room.

It is very helpful if you can find a healthy alternative like exercise, yoga, meditation, or going for a walk. Yoga, walking, and other exercises are useful because they lead to the release of endorphins, one of the “feel-good chemicals” that make up your body’s reward system.

It may take a couple of tries to break away from the computer, but you will begin to feel more positive and productive with how you are spending your time. This would be an excellent time to consider picking a new hobby that you have been putting off or agreeing to meet with a friend you have been avoiding. Even putting energy into something like exercise could be a positive way to stay away from online chat rooms. This could help you to feel better about yourself, as well, so that you can more comfortably seek out connections with others in real life.

Talk to a Professional

Do You Feel Like You're Addicted To Private Chat Rooms Online?

Whether you have a technology dependence or believe that you are addicted to private online chat rooms, these conditions can be deceptively dangerous. They might make it difficult for you to appreciate other aspects of your life, like personal relationships or even your job. They may prevent you from doing other things that are good for you, like interacting with other people or doing physical activities like exercising.

Studies have shown that those living with behavioral addictions have significantly benefitted from utilizing online therapy. A study published in Clinical Psychology Review found that online therapy produced helpful behavioral changes in those experiencing dependence. Researchers also found that the effects were sustained in the long term. These findings are in line with a wide range of research proving the efficacy of the various tools that online therapy platforms provide. In addition to counseling, these tools often include exercises, text-based alerts and messages, interactive lessons, and other resources that help those living with mental health issues to adhere to a treatment plan.

Unlike traditional, in-person therapy, BetterHelp’s licensed counselors are available to you from the comfort and privacy of your own home (or wherever you have an internet connection). Also, if you’re uncomfortable openly discussing some things, online therapy is a discreet and private way of conquering those issues. If you choose, you can participate in online therapy completely anonymously.

The qualified professionals at BetterHelp know how to guide you if you’re living with an addictive personality. Please take the time to look at the counselor reviews below to see how they have helped others with dependence issues.

Counselor Reviews

“Julissa is my lifeline to sobriety. I always know that she is there to assist me. She’s honest and to the point. She helps me to see other aspects of my behavior that I either could not see or refuse to see. Thank you, Julissa!”

“Brenda has been a lifeline to me in a very difficult time. In one month, she has helped support me through quitting alcohol, partaking in self-care, and helping me through the process of a breakup. She asks the questions that your friends won’t, a real chance to understand what’s happening to you as well as being able to evaluate it healthily. Brenda also gave me very good practical advice on how to manage my anxiety and how to handle those first few days of a breakup, which can feel impossible. I’ve loved that I can message her whenever I get those awful feelings, and she usually responds pretty quickly. You can also schedule weekly phone sessions, which have also been helpful some weeks when I’ve really been really struggling.”

Final Word

Being addicted to something isn’t easy, but you can get through it. You will be able to find happiness in your life outside of the chat room. As difficult as it may seem right now, a gratifying life in which addiction doesn’t control you or hold you back is possible—all you need are the right tools. Take the first step today.

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