22 Blended Family Quotes That You Can Relate To
Updated February 04, 2020
Reviewer Rashonda Douthit , LCSW
It is becoming increasingly common for remarriages to include children from previous relationships, making blended families or stepfamilies more commonplace each day. Unfortunately, families don't always blend smoothly, and problems come up. Sometimes children resist changes or parents become frustrated when your new family doesn't function exactly like your old one.
What is a blended family? A blended family is a family that includes children from a partner's past relationship. One, or both parents may become a stepparent.
Blending families requires adjustments for everyone, not just one person or the other. The whole family must relearn how to interact and socialize while discovering where they fit in the overall situation. Families have growing pains, and the trip to becoming a perfectly balanced blended family is rough, the bonds that are created afterward are worth it.
With that in mind, we have compiled a list of quotes that members of a blended or currently "blending" family can relate to:
Quotes For Step-Mom:
It is not always comfortable stepping up and becoming a stepmom. Being accused by another family member of trying to replace their "real" mom or being constantly pummeled by the harsh words of confused step-children. Sometimes it seems impossible to bond and to adjust to the new arrangement, to becoming a new mom to children that are not legally yours. Having to deal with the verbal abuse of other mothers or working with children can tempt you to throw everything to the wind. Every now and again, a reminder is needed that you're doing the best you can and that you are not the first, or only, stepmom to struggle. Here are five quotes for new step-moms:
"The hardest thing is to be a stepmom. To love your husband's kids even when their mother is teaching them to hate you."
"Nothing in the world feels more personal than rejection from a child upon who you have showered love and emotional energy. But it's not about you. Really. Moms can brush off the rejection because they know that their children will be back on track the moment a new emotional or physical need arises. A stepmom's first instinct is to blame herself and consider what it is she may have done to earn the treatment she received."
"When it feels as if you can't do right by the other parent, do right by your step-child instead. You'll never fail with their best interest at heart."
"What I'm doing isn't about me, it's about the two little kids that my husband brought into my life. It is about them and making sure that they feel safe, happy, and supported."
"The truth is that the way our ex's, our partner's ex's or even our step-kids see us isn't always about us - it's about them and their struggles, insecurities, fears or limitations. You don't have to allow their judgment to become your truth."
Quotes For Step-Dad:
Being a stepdad can be difficult as well, and the position is often overlooked. Stepdads have to deal with as many blended family issues as stepmoms. They may face difficulties trying to get respect from the children or may encounter problems with the biological father. Stepdads try just as hard to bond with the children and be there for them without caving into the pressures surrounding them. They only want what is best for the new additions to their family, whether they are biological or not. The quotes below show what it can be like to be a step-dad:
"A Stepdad doesn't just marry his wife: He marries her entire situation… He has to find a balance between supporting her and defending her - without overstepping invisible boundaries that may exist."
"Any man can help make a child, but it takes a special man to help raise a child."
"As a stepparent, you should be more concerned with your child's happiness than your petty insecurities and jealousies. Just a thought."
"A dad isn't defined as the man who makes the child, but rather the man who raises and loves the child with all his heart through anything. BLOOD doesn't always make a man a dad; being a DAD comes from the heart."
"Lookin' back all I can say about all the things he did for me is I hope I'm at least half the dad that he didn't have to be."
Quotes For Step-Kids:
Adjusting to a new family member is beyond exhausting and so is determining the boundary between appreciating and respect your stepparent or siblings and feeling like you're insulting your biological parent. You can feel trapped and forced to choose a side based on which parent you want to support. You may feel like the outsider amongst the new members of the family. If you and your biological parent have been alone for a long time, and now you have to adjust to new members, it can be even more stressful. Here are five quotes that step-kids can relate to:
"There's something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think."
"You were made with love; you are destined for greatness. This big old world can be a scary place; I hope you know that with your kind heart and fierce mind and brave spirit you can do anything. Be bold, be crazy, be loud, be everything that you want to be, but always remember to be yourself."
"You can rise from anything. You can completely recreate yourself. Nothing is permanent. You're not stuck. You have choices. You can think of new thoughts. You can learn something new. You can create new habits. All that matters is that you decide today and never look back."
"The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem."
- Captain Jack Sparrow
"Hate no one, no matter how much they've wronged you. Live humbly, no matter how wealthy you become. Think positively, no matter how hard life is. Give much, even if you've been given little. Forgive all, especially yourself, and never stop praying for the best for everyone."
Quotes For Blended Families:
Blended families are the norm in this day and age, and coping with the change is more critical now than ever before. Just because families experience a significant difference does not mean they do not deserve to be happy and at peace with one another. With the amount of effort put into working together, most members will feel exhausted and want to give up and snap back at others. The goal is to push through those moments and remember why you're working towards peace, to begin with. Here are seven quotes that explain what it's like to be a part of a blended family:
"Don't worry if you're not an instant, happily-ever-after blended family. Expect to endure "I give up" days and rejoice in the "I can do this" days. It will take work, dedication, an excellent sense of humor, and a strong resolve. But hey, since when has any family taken the easy route? We don't do "easy" - we do "worth it!"
"Blended Families: Woven together by choice, strengthened together by love tested by everything and each uniquely ours."
"Family isn't defined only by last names or by blood; it's defined by commitment and by love. It means showing up when they need it most. It means having each other's backs. It means choosing to love each other even on those days when you struggle to like each other. It means never giving up on each other!"
"Co-parenting is not a competition. It's a collaboration of two homes working together with the best interest of the child at heart. Work for your kids, not against them."
"The secret to blending families is… There is no secret. It's scary and awesome and ragged and perfect and always changing. Love and laugh hard, try again tomorrow, but that's life advice, right?"
"There is no such thing as a broken family. Family is family and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart."
"For those of you that say "this is not what I signed up for" remember that life is not built for your comfort. Life is built by lessons that test you, and push you with every possibility of either demolishing your foundation or reinforcing it!"
Living In A Blended Family
Merging, as a blended family, is one of the most challenging tasks a family will ever go through. The different opinions are competing, trying to determine where you fit in amongst your new family. Figuring out where the borders lie and how to not cross them. Some families are not able to complete the transition without going through therapy or online therapy. There is no shame in needing help to make sure your family is working as one unit and not always fighting against each other. If you need help, consider reaching out to a licensed professional in your area today.