Mothers In Law Anonymous: A Place To Air Your Frustrations
Updated December 06, 2018
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Mothers in Law Anonymous is an online community forum where you're encouraged to "Dish, vent or ask for advice about the mother-in-law and daughter-in law relationship". For some reason, this relationship is often rife with trouble from minor disagreements to major personality differences.
The forum has over 6,000 topics, with even more posts and comments. It's part of a larger website, Grandparents.com, that provides a space for grandparents to connect and discuss a variety of topics from health to grandparenting and family matters.
Another great thing about the forum is that it's anonymous. You get to pick a username, so your posts and identity stay private.
Mothers in Law Anonymous
A daughter-in-law can be hard to deal with. As parents, watching your son get married and start a family can be a joyous occasion but differences in opinion can occur often. You need to be careful who you complain to because it might get back to your son, or even worse, daughter-in-law, and start an argument.
The Mothers in Law Anonymous forum is a great place to find support and advice if you're struggling to maintain a relationship with your son's girlfriend, fiancé, or wife. Really the forum works both ways, with people posting about problems with their sons-in-law too.
These types of forums can help you gain insight and support. They're a great way to remind yourself that you aren't the only one experiencing family problems. Talking about your frustrations might help you start to feel better and think up a solution.
Other Resources for Struggling Mothers in Law
Counseling, either in person or online via a service like BetterHelp, can teach you how to deal with difficult relationships. If you're ready to stop complaining about your daughter-in-law online and take steps to repair the issues you two have, a little bit of therapy or counseling can go a long way.
This counseling can be something that you go to yourself to learn how to cope when your daughter-in-law is around or making things difficult for you. A counselor can give you an outlet for your frustrations and encourage you to see things differently so the whole situation a little easier to handle.
Depending on how severe the situation is, family counseling with your daughter-in-law could be beneficial too. A professional can help create a safe space to air your frustrations and start to create a more understanding and compassionate relationship with each other.
Holding onto such strained relationships can be stressful and unhealthy. It's important to try to find a solution if a toxic mother-in-law/daughter-in-law family dynamic is having a negative on your life. Setting healthy boundaries and trying to see things from a more compassionate perspective are a few good ways to make progress.
The relationship between a couple and their in-laws is complicated. Grandparents and significant others always seem to be competing for time and attention. They might disagree a lot and people start to feel like they are in the middle. It can create a lot of tension for the whole family.
There are places online where you can find people who are going through the same thing, like Mothers in Law Anonymous. These groups are great if friends don't understand what you're going through and you need someone sympathetic to talk to.
If you're ready to take the next step and try to find a long-term solution to this problem, counseling can help. Individual or family counseling can give you the understanding and tools you need to finally repair your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.