10 Good Getting To Know Someone Questions
Updated September 13, 2018
Reviewer Rashonda Douthit , LCSW
Sometimes it is hard to get to know people. It can be difficult to know what to say or what is appropriate to talk about. It can be especially tough if you struggle with talking to people. When you first meet someone and want to get to know them better, there are some great questions you can ask to get them to open up. Some of the best questions to ask include:
Which of The Five Senses Could You Live Without and Why?
While this may seem like a strange question, it is a good way to tell what kind of person you are talking to. Make sure you give them time to think about it because this is a big question. Think about what your answer would be. It is not an easy choice.
If You Could Have One Super Power, What Would It Be and What Would You Do with It?
The answer to this can tell you how the other person thinks and what they think is important. If they say they would like to be invisible so they can rob a bank, hopefully they are kidding.
What is Your Greatest Achievement?
A question like this should be a prerequisite to every job and relationship. The answer to this question will tell you a lot about another person. Once again, think about what your answer to this question would be.
What Animal Is Most Like You and Why?
The answer to this question may be silly and fun or serious and thoughtful. Either way, talk about it and what the reason for the answer means. Share your answer as well.
If You Knew You Were Going to be on a Deserted Island, What Three Items Would You Take with You?
This kind of question can tell you if this person is practical, sentimental, or just clueless.
What Are You Really Good At?
Most people have one thing that they feel they can do really well such as writing, building things, and computer programming. However, this question encourages them to put some real thought into their answer, and this would also help you see how they perceive themselves.
What Is On Your Bucket List?
The answers to this question can tell you what a person's goals and motivations are and what they really want to do at least once. It's also a good way to see if you have any common interests.
What Are You Afraid Of?
Everyone has fears but most people do not like to talk about them. This question may seem a bit intrusive if you are just meeting someone but sometimes it is easier talking to a stranger.
Would You Rather Walk or Ride?
This is a question to see if they are into exercise or not and that is something you should be interested in if you are going to spend time together. For example, if you hate exercise you may not want to be with someone who likes to walk everywhere they go.
What Would Be Your Perfect Day?
Knowing what they would really like to be doing will give you some insight into whether or not you have common interests.
Social Anxiety Disorder
If you find yourself getting anxious when you are in public or when you try to talk to someone, you may have social anxiety disorder. SAD affects approximately 15 million American adults and is the second most commonly diagnosed anxiety disorder.
The best thing to do if you feel you may have social anxiety disorder is to talk to a mental health professional. If you are not ready to talk to someone in person or just do not have the time, there are over 2,000 licensed professionals to take your call or message online at BetterHelp.com. You do not need a referral or an appointment, just answer a few questions and you can get started now.