I Need Someone To Talk To About My Problems – But Where Do I Turn?

By Nicole Beasley

Updated June 21, 2019

Reviewer Wendy Galyen, LCSW, BC-TMH

I Wish I Had Someone to Talk to About My Problems

When you're suffering, it's natural to want to talk to someone about your problems. Understandably, you would want to vent to a friend or loved one about what you're experiencing. As much as others care, you are the one who ultimately has to handle your challenges. That might sound scary but think of it as an empowering statement. You have the tools to change your life for the better. That doesn't mean you can't ask for help and you can.

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Managing Life Challenges

How do you cope when you have problems? Naturally, you talk to friends and family. In addition to confiding in the people close to you, there are other ways to find support. Going to counseling or seeing an online therapist can help you when you're suffering. Your friend isn't your therapist. It's essential to be careful when you're asking for support from those close to you. There's a balance between being a supportive friend and acting like someone's counselor. You want a friend to be just that, a friend. A therapist, on the other hand, is a dedicated mental health professional whose job it is to care for you. They want to help you navigate your problems. Many people in your position turn to mental health professionals to talk about their issues. Therapy helps people figure out how to get through tough times. According to the American Psychological Association, half of American households have a family member in therapy or counseling. Seeking mental health treatment is an excellent way to manage your problems.

Talk to Someone Who Cares

Some people naturally open up about their problems. They don't have an issue talking about what's on their mind, sharing what's going on in their lives and (if necessary) asking for help. There are times when friends and family can offer great advice. There are moments when you need someone to listen to you. You don't necessarily want advice; you want to vent. That's when you turn to a friend or loved one to let them know what's going on. You might say, "I don't need you to fix anything. I want you to hear me." That's perfectly reasonable. You don't have to get the answers from your friends. You are responsible for your life. Your support system can help guide you, and be there to lend an ear, but they're not there to fix your issues. That's the work you will do in therapy. By working with a therapist, whether that's online or in your local area, you will find the coping skills to manage your problems. It's okay not to know what to do; nobody has all the answers. But, by taking that vital step to see a therapist, you're also harnessing control of your mental health.

Know When to Get Help

There's only so much that friends and family can do. There are times when a therapist can step in and help you develop coping skills to manage your life challenges. Let's say that you're suffering from constant panic attacks. You've talked to your loved ones about your anxiety, and though they empathize, they don't know how to help you with the condition. A trained therapist can help you learn grounding techniques to use when you're experiencing a panic attack. If you're interested in online therapy, there are many counselors at BetterHelp who understand how to help people manage anxiety. If you have a life challenge and you can't seem to solve it on your own, counseling can help. Your therapist wants to support you and your mental health. That's where BetterHelp comes in.

BetterHelp Cares

If after reading this article, you're considering meeting with a therapist, we're glad. That's a great first step to helping yourself! If you're struggling with mental health issues, anxiety, depression, or dealing with a bad breakup, these are all problems that the counselors at BetterHelp understand. They want to help support you through these problems. You can talk to them about whatever challenges you're experiencing and get the guidance and empathy that you deserve. Friends and family are helpful at times, but there's something unique about confiding in a therapist about your problems. You deserve to have someone dedicated to working with you on your issues. That's how online counseling can help. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. The counselors here at BetterHelp are waiting to support you in the way that you deserve.

Counselor Reviews

"Rebecca has really helped me sort out things and reflect on things in a way I have never experienced with a face to face counselor. I am able to be way more open thru messaging then in face to face, so this works perfectly for me. She addresses and helps with many different aspects at once. She sees the overall picture and helps me to do the same. The way I look at things has changed, and my quality of life and the quality of my children's lives has improved very quickly in a short time."

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"My counseling experience with Jessica has been wonderful. Not only has she been kind and attentive she has also been encouraging and supportive. Even though we are in different time zones, it has never been a barrier for us to communicate. She would still respond to my text whenever she is able to. I'm really grateful to have found her as my counsellor as I no longer feel that I'm fighting alone."

You Are Not Alone

If you are thinking to yourself, "I need someone to talk to about my problems," but it seems that no one is out there to help: you are not alone. It is in human nature to need other people as friends, confidants, family, and co-workers. We are healthier when we socialize. We are more productive when we create positive relationships.

Yet, you may find yourself at a loss when it is time to find a listening ear. Just because people are friendly does not mean they have time to invest in listening to you talk about your problems or feelings. Everyone is busy with his or her own lives and just because someone is your friend on Facebook or follows you on Twitter does not mean that they want to know about your issues. Even your real friends and family may not be the best choice for telling your problems to. They are somewhat biased and sometimes, your well-meaning friends and family may even lecture you rather than giving practical advice.

If you feel disillusioned, you are not alone. In fact, as Generation X and the millennial generation, we can soon expect a complete collection of mature adults who are still disconnected on a personal level. According to one study, the majority of young people don't feel emotionally invested in religion, in politics, marriage, or even having a traditional family. These generations think that because they have over 500 friends on Facebook that they have over 500 people they can talk to when they want to. However, this is not the case, and they find that out when they try to find someone to talk to about their problems.

On the other hand, over 80 percent of millennials are active on social media with a median average of 250 friends. This is where the young generation tries to connect, and often it is hit or miss when so much of social media is impersonal.

Sometimes, friends do not even see new status updates from their friends because of the new algorithm changes. Sometimes, the tone of a conversation is completely misunderstood. People can even become depressed when they see the "illusion" of their friends' successful lives on social media, assuming that because someone else is vacationing in Hawaii and having fun, their life at home is meaningless.

It's no wonder that many of us are even more depressed when seeking answers from social media. There is no filter here, no professional guidance and you may very quickly learn that your friends are often too self-absorbed to listen to your pain, nor do they care about helping you. It is not because they do not like you or because they are bad people. They just have their own lives to live just like you do.

I Need Someone to Talk to About My Problems... But...

The problem is often that we need someone to talk to, "But…" as in, "But I do not want to go to a therapist." Or, "But I do not want to pay someone to hear me ramble on."

This is why online depression counseling can help. Traveling to meet a therapist in person is stressful and requires major effort; online counseling makes it easy to get help without obligation. There are anonymity and discretion in chatting online with someone who cares.

Best of all, when you seek professional online counseling, you receive leadership and guidance from a trained professional. These are not your friends or family just throwing out ideas (which may be good or bad). These are not life coaches, simply suggesting you do what your heart tells you. These are licensed therapists who can help you better cope with life and stress with specific solutions for your problems.

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What Is Online Therapy?

Online therapy goes by many names such as mobile telemental health counseling, e-counseling, electronic therapy, mobile therapy, etc. These names cover the same general area - being able to talk to a therapist, counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist from home. You may do this on via phone, email, texting, instant messaging, online chat rooms, and even using a teleconferencing or communication app.

This type of mental health treatment includes mental health evaluation and assessments, education, treatment plans, monitoring patients, and collaboration with clients and other medical personnel. The personnel may include psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, counselors, social workers, nurses, physician assistants, and primary care physicians.

Is Online Therapy Effective?

What makes online therapy more effective than traditional therapy is that over 70% of those who need mental health treatment do not get it. Why? Many times, it is because of fear or embarrassment. Most patients with clinical depression or anxiety disorder have a hard time getting motivated in the first place. Let alone trying to talk yourself into finding a therapist you like, making an appointment (which is often months away), and then actually getting up the courage to go.

Talking to a therapist or counselor online from the comfort of your own home makes it so much easier to get the help you need. It is also much easier for those who do not have access to transportation, people who live in rural areas, individuals who have physical limitations or disabilities, and those who are extremely busy. You can "talk" out your feelings with your smartphone or tablet while your kids are playing at the playground or while you are in the car between appointments. You can even have therapy while you relax at the pool!

How much better can it get than that? Okay, you still want to see the numbers? According to studies, out of those who had online therapy for depression, 53% no longer had depressive symptoms after treatment. In another study, over 70% of those who had online treatment for anxiety disorder reported reduced symptoms after only eight weeks of treatment.

Will Your Insurance Cover Online Therapy?

A few years ago, almost all insurance companies refused to pay for online therapy of any kind. Now, many of these companies cover almost all forms of online therapy. Part of the reason is the cost. Insurance companies do not like to spend money, and online therapy is much less expensive than traditional face-to-face counseling or therapy. There are fewer expenses for therapists and counselors because they do not have to pay for an office, upkeep of the space, and the expense of traveling back and forth to that office.

Because the therapist is often saving money, they do not charge as much and by default the cost is lower for the insurance company. As a matter of fact, even if the insurance company does not cover the online therapy you want, you can afford it much easier than going to see a psychologist or therapist in person. The cost of therapy online averages between $30 and $70 per session while in person you will pay between $150 and $300 per hour on average.

How to Get Started

Getting started is simple. Go online and choose a site. This is an important step: you have to be sure that the site is reputable and reliable and that the therapists or counselors are licensed to provide the care that you need. Legally, they need to be licensed in the state that you are living in. You can actually go to theAssociation of State and Provincial Psychology Boards website to find out.

Or, you can check them out on the American Psychological Association website. Betterhelp.com has more than 2,000 licensed professionals available to help you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and they have a free trial so it will not cost you anything to check them out. Once you decide what website to use, all you have to do is answer a few simple questions. You do not even have to give your name if you want to remain anonymous. After that, create a free private account. Still, there is no need to use your real name if you do not want to. Although you will need to provide an email address, they will keep it private.

That's all you have to do! It is that simple. The website will email you, and then you can work together to find the right counselor that will be able to help you with your needs. You can choose between as many as you like and find the right fit for you. Because there are so many different counselors, you have many more options than you would if you were looking for a traditional face-to-face therapist.

At a low cost and at almost any time that suits you, you can talk to an online counselor. There is nothing to lose! You may immediately discover that a mental health professional understands your problems in ways friends, family, and acquaintances do not. There is no reason to hesitate to make a positive change in your life!


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