What Is Emotional Detachment Disorder?
By Sarah Fader
Updated March 17, 2020
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Are You Feeling Disconnected from Your Emotions?
We all have feelings. It's alarming when we can't seem to get in touch with these emotions and feelings. If you're experiencing distance from your feelings, you may be suffering from Emotional Detachment Disorder (EDD) but don't worry-there is help.
There are multiple different types of detachment, but emotional detachment is a purely mental disorder. A common misconception is that people with emotional detachment disorder are incapable of expressing and interpreting feelings, when the truth is that they simply struggle to, so they choose the easier path of avoiding feelings instead. Essentially, by not feeling, a person removes themselves from the situation, taking a protective measure that is usually learned from a traumatic experience. Being emotionally detached is not your fault, and there are ways to move forward and enjoy fulfilling relationships. This article will cover symptoms and causes of emotional detachment, as well as coping tools you can use.
Symptoms of Emotional Detachment Disorder
There are times when we all feel like we're a little apart from the world around us, but sometimes we just can't help being full of emotions. The ability to turn those emotions off, or not feel them at all is a sign that something might not be right. The symptoms of emotional detachment disorder are easier to spot in yourself than in another person:
- An inability to express emotions
- Emotional numbness
- Treating others in a disrespectful manner and being oblivious of the behavior
- Avoiding emotions when a situation warrants emotional expression
- A lack of empathy toward the emotions of others
- The inability to identify your own emotions
Causes of Emotional Detachment Disorder
Many things can cause us to withdraw emotionally, and many of these are learned in childhood. Being forced or taught to suppress your emotions as a child will lead you to behaviors that are emotionally unhealthy. People that struggle to express emotions in a healthy manner often choose other outlets to do so, usually destructive ones like drugs and alcohol in an attempt to escape from emotions that they haven't been taught to understand.
When we are children, adults are seen as "all powerful" because they are in charge. Sometimes, parents themselves are unable to healthily express emotion, so they act as distant or disciplinary figures. People with EDD usually have a strict upbringing with parents who are very restrictive and controlling. A common example of this is in boys who cry. They are often censured and told that such expressions of emotion are unsightly and unacceptable, causing the boy to learn that he should not behave this way even if it is a healthy and normal expression of emotion.
People with EDD will have dealt with extremes from their parent figures - alternatively being loved and then punished with extremes. The important thing to understand here, is that traumatic past experiences are not your fault. The first step is recognizing them, and then you can begin your path to healing.
Other Causes of an Emotionally Detached Person
If you're an emotionally detached person, here are a few reasons why you may feel this way.
If you have had a hard time in life, you may be an emotionally detached person. As we all know, childhood abuse can have effects that last for a long time, and it can lead to mental illness, personal growth issues, and other mental health problems. Child development issues are something that are worth discussing, especially if there was abuse during child development.
In some abusive households, you may have been told that being emotional was bad. You may have been punished because you expressed emotion, and because of that, you may be someone who avoids emotional interaction altogether. Being told that you can't be emotional is toxic, and it can lead to mental illness. Learning how to express your emotion, both consciously or unconsciously, can be a challenge when you've been in an abusive household. However, by seeking help, you can experience the personal growth of being able to express your emotions.
SSRIs are useful for depression. When you're feeling like you can't bother fighting life, and you feel emotionally unavailable, you may find a therapist who prescribes these medications for you.
However, SSRIs have their pros and cons. While they work for some and help improve their day to day lives, there are other cases where the SSRI has an impact on their mental health. They may make you feel anxious or uncomfortable or have the opposite intended effect. Sometimes, medication can make you feel emotionally distant or emotionally numb, and you may wonder why that is.
In some cases, this is due to the side effects, particularly when taken with other medications. If you or a family member feel emotionally stunted after taking SSRIs, it's important to speak to your doctor. The doctor can figure out why the medication is making you experience emotional detachment and change your medication. Then they may be able to monitor your medication usage in case if there is anything else that needs to be changed. Often, medication is a trial and error process, and by changing your medication and monitoring it, you can feel better.
Sometimes, current events don't help people who are experiencing emotional detachment. Everything is so negative these days, and the emotional pain you read about can have differing effects. For some, stories about violence and killing has a mental health impact that makes them more emotional and angry at the world.
Then, there is the opposite impact. You may become desensitized and have a lack of emotion to the world around you. You may feel like the world isn't worth fighting anymore, and that you're emotionally unavailable to care about the world around you.
You may be able to treat this feeling with a bit of positive psychology. What do we mean by positive psychology? Simply put, try to consume media that is more positive. Don't share negative stories, but share stories that are making you feel a happier emotion. Now, you do not want to be a person who is spending time consuming positive news only, but when you start to feel numb over the news, try taking a break.
Sometimes, you may feel emotionally numb over how people respond to events. Everyone seems to follow mass shootings, and those who do follow mass shootings tend to get toxic. You may see false flag conspiracy theories over mass shootings. If not false flag conspiracy theories mass shootings, then toxic debates that make you feel detached when you want to feel free. Sometimes, you may believe in the theories that follow mass shootings or be against theories that follow mass shootings. Emotional problems may ensue.
Sometimes, you may feel emotionally numb over what other countries are doing to you. For example, you may be into the "Russian interference change votes" idea. The "Russian interference change votes" idea is that Russia has interfered in our election, and they may be responsible for everything you see on the Internet. You may feel numb because you feel like everyone you talk to is fake, and the "interference change votes" concept can haunt you. Talking to a therapist about the "interference change votes" concept maybe a good move.
You may always pay attention to trending topics, and these trending topics are never good. What's going on in South Africa? Oh, turmoil is going on in South Africa. What about the conditions of our troops or ships? Our troops or ships are in trouble. You may feel title detachment because of it, and that title detachment can carry on for a long time. The titles of news stories just makes you emotionally numb.
With the news being so worldwide, it's easy to keep tabs on other countries. You may see the news in the United Kingdom, and even though you don't live in the United Kingdom, you may still feel empty.
Hearing news about people getting the short end of the "paternity-leave stick" may make upset and numb as well. People who get the short end of the "paternity-leave stick" tend to suffer at their jobs.
Finally, it's so easy to read magazines and consume them online. If you search for "magazine November," you can read any magazine November has to offer.
All this media consumption can lead to burnout and detachment.
Too Much Internet Use
Too much internet use can make you feel numb, too. You may say, "Let me go to this website in this browser. Oh, it's the same old content in this field. Oh, a blank advertisement that' can't load." Or you may end up reading something good, only to feel numb when it's polluted with ads. As you continue reading, advertisement on advertisement piles up.
Let's talk about the "website in this browser" concept. What website do you get on the most? Facebook, Twitter? Using the same websites every day can make you numb. The "Website in this browser" is always the same thing, and the "Website in this browser" doesn't ever seem to change. Perhaps it's time to get a new "website in his browser."
If you feel detached and want to feel free, it's sometimes important to turn off the computer or TV and just spend time with the people you love. Family life is important, and family life can remind you that the world is not so bad in some aspect.
This is known as a digital detox vacation, where people spend a week or two away from the digital world. A digital detox vacation may be good for you.
Sometimes, your emotional numbness may be due to the fact that life has gotten too predictable. When you start feeling a lack of emotion or emotional numbing, this emotional numbing may be due to the fact that life has gotten boring.
Doing the same things over and over that you're no longer emotionally invested in can lead to you feeling that numbness. When you're no longer emotionally invested in something, that's the root of the problem.
Implementing new things in your life can help fix the root of the problem. This can sometimes help emotionally detached people find a new purpose. Plus, always learning and trying something new is good for your mental health. Here are some suggestions:
- Try getting a pet. Dogs can cats can help your emotions, and dogs and cats are also good for other problems. The purring of a cat can help with a stress disorder, and pets can help emotionally detached people find emotional connections. Emotional connections are always important, and emotional connections can include animals.
- Your inability to connect with the world may be due to the fact that you simply need to get out. Go visit someplace new, and you may find it as a good means of coping. A vacation does not have to be something expensive; going to the next town over may help you retain your happiness when you're experiencing a low emotional level.
- Learn a new skill. Practice your speech and body strength. Find a new hobby. Challenge yourself as a means of coping. It's never too late to try something new. Some formally emotionally detached people find success and improved emotional intelligence at an older age.
- Connect with new friends. Having old friends are great, but new friends, especially beyond your comfort zone, can help. Internet friends can be the solution, too. A Twitter friend can help you, or someone who says "friend me on Facebook."
- If you're still experiencing an inability to connect on an emotional level, there is no shame in talking to a therapist about what you're feeling. Your lack of emotional sensations may be due to stress disorders, a traumatic event, and other situations that trigger a lack of emotional response.
Sometimes, bipolar disorder may be why you're feeling a numb way. As you probably know, bipolar disorder is when you experience two extreme emotions, mania and depression. Bipolar disorder tends to make you either depressed or extremely euphoric, and when you're the former, you may feel emotional numbness. Sometimes, you may feel more with your depression too, such as chronic pain. Chronic pain can lead to you feeling emotionally numb if left untreated.
Bipolar disorder can lead to other issues as well.
If you suspect you have bipolar disorder, it's important you get an early diagnosis. An early diagnosis is important in most circumstances. An early diagnosis of bipolar disorder can help you get the help you need, and an early diagnosis of bipolar disorder can give you peace of mind.
Can Quitting Smoking Lead to an Emotional Stunt?
If you've considered stopping smoking, that's a great thing. Stopping smoking will help improve your overall health. However, quitting smoking cold turkey can spread emotions all across your body. It may spread emotions such as depression, anxiety, anger, and apathy. Plus, it may lead to weight gain. The secret to successful weight containment is to quit slowly and adjust diet and exercise. This technique is good for any successful weight loss, too. Protect yourself from emotional turmoil by weaning yourself off, or protect yourself from emotional woes by talking to a doctor as you quit.
Apathy and Procrastination
Sometimes, you may have a tough task ahead of you, and you may feel anxiety as a result. It can be easy to recognize anxiety-induced procrastination. As you look at your paper, it feels like you're experiencing retinal detachment because you're so unfocused. It's quite easy to recognize the language of mental turmoil as you struggle. The Psychology Today article "Jesse Leach and the Language of Mental Illness" is a good read.
However, detachment isn't anxiety, and detachment isn't another strong emotion, so instead, you may experience emotional detachment with procrastination.
With detachment over procrastination, it can make it hard to finish your assignment or other task. The law of detachment and language of mental illness pretty much dictate that you won't have much motivation to finish that paper, and that's a problem.
Some Struggles of Emotionally Detached People
With emotionally detached people, there are so many struggles they may have, and it can be hard or them to show these struggles due to their detachment. Here are some struggles detached people tend to have.
Telling People They Do Have Emotions
Emotionally detached people can have emotional intelligence and feel emotions, but that emotional intelligence is limited to their inner monologues. These emotions are regularly shown publicly.
Being Told They Have No Empathy
Some people are extremely empathetic to the point where they experience emotional contagion. Emotional contagion is when someone's emotions rub off on you. In short, you catch and spread emotions from someone else and you yourself can catch and spread emotions. If you see someone feeling sad, you may start to feel sad as well. Any emotion can be rubbed off, whether it's joy or anger. But for detached people, they don't feel anything.
Not Feeling Anything Over Events
We live in a world where you are expected to feel things over today's current events and the media you consume, whether it's joy or anger. However, detached people don't show much emotion over the current events. They aren't the type of people show emotions when conspiracy theories follow mass shootings. Some people get angry at the theorists when conspiracy theories follow mass shootings, while others get emotionally engaged at the conspiracies themselves.
You're Always the Go To Person When Something Happens
Some people find a therapist when something bad happens to them. Others may seek detached people, thinking that detachment means the person is some neutral party to every situation who can offer advice.
We understand the mindset. Many people who practice detachment may seem emotionally detached. Some people may think that when it comes to emotional detachment, the pros outweigh the cons. The problem is that many people who practice detachment do feel emotions, but when you're practicing detachment, it can be hard to show them, and you may not be a neutral party.
Some people may even go to you for financial advice. When people are experiencing emotions, it affects how they spend. This is known as behavioral economics. Someone who seems emotionally stunted may be seen as someone who has better behavioral economics, even though that's never the case.
However, everyone will still go to detached people for advice, and for people who practice detachment, it can be irritating.
Always Getting the Wrong Diagnosis
Emotional detachment disorder can be difficult to diagnose, especially because there are similar mood disorders. Someone may get a diagnosis of bipolar disorder, despite the fact that people who practice detachment don't have mood swings. The diagnosed disorder can be difficult to correct, too. Some people who are practicing detachment may just keep their disorder to themselves and avoid internal anxiety by avoiding doctors.
It's important you go to a doctor who knows what emotional detachment disorder is and can get you an early diagnosis. With an early diagnosis, you may be able to review your options better. Visit some treatment centers.
Detached People Are Seen as Rude
Another struggle is that some people may see you as rude. Because you don't show emotion, many may think you're showing passive aggression, and if not passive aggression, another disorder. Some people will try to dodge this internal anxiety by avoiding those who don't understand.
We're wired to catch negative emotions that come from people. You may think we're wired to catch emotional stuntedness, but this isn't the case.
There are many benefits of meditation, from treating stress disorders, anxiety-induced procrastination, to helping you with situations that trigger a traumatic event memory. Traumas create negative patterns, but the act or process of mediation can help improve your emotional well-being. You can look for thoughts that creative negative patterns and discard them. Mediation can help you detach in a good way. When you detach, detachable thoughts that are negative will disappear.
Mediation also helps calm you down when you feel emotionally overwhelmed, which can lead to stunted emotions.
You may want to look into your own personal meditation retreats. Meditation retreats can be a forest or your own house. Anything that makes you feel calm and collected.
Emotional Detachment in Relationships
Another type of emotional detachment is emotional detachment in relationships. You're emotionally detached from your partner, or vice versa. This detachment definition may not extend to other people outside the relationship, but when it comes to your relationship, you feel emotionally unavailable.
Some people think that emotionally detached means that your relationship isn't worth salvaging, and thus, you may believe that you should end the relationship if you're experiencing a symptom of emotional detachment. Or, they may think that this sort of detachment only happens at an old age.
First, detachment can happen at a young age too, and sometimes your emotional detachment in a relationship can be fixed. Let's look at a few reasons why you may be detached.
Sometimes, putting too much stress into the relationship can make you feel emotionally numb. Too much stress is bad for anyone's mental health, but in the mental health of a relationship, stress can make you lose that healthy relationship. It's important you find a therapist to help deal with that stress.
You Rarely See Each Other
A loving relationship needs constant contact, but when you don't see each other often, there is more than just a lost touch. You two feel like maintaining personal connections isn't possible. Especially if the two of you work different schedules, are away from each other for long periods of time, this can lead to problems.
It's important you find a therapist who can teach you how to manage your time and spend quality time together, and possibly change careers if that is possible.
Sometimes, your relationship becomes emotionally detached because of body issues. One person, especially if they are aging or let themselves go, may feel a sign of emotional detachment because of their own dysmorphia. They may develop eating disorders that lead to weight loss, or meticulously practice skin care rituals. Or they may be overeating. Overeating changes the brain sometimes. This can also be the sign of a personality disorder, but it can happen to anyone, too.
These negative patterns you experience can lead to negative patterns in relationships. If you feel prejudice or bias towards your own self, it's important you talk to a professional who deals with love, relationship issues, and body issues.
Sometimes, sex problems can lead to an emotional roller-coaster of problems. You may feel like sexual desire is only important in the early parts of a relationship, but the truth is that sexual desire is always important in every aspect of a relationship. You may read some essential reads about sex and relationships, but sometimes, even these essential reads may not tell you what to do. Here are some other common problems in a relationship that can cause an emotional roller-coaster.
- Erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction, as you may know, is when you have a hard time getting an erection. Sometimes, it's due to aging, not feeling attracted to your spouse anymore, or another problem. For example, can pornography cause erectile dysfunction? To answer that question of "can pornography cause erectile dysfunction," we believe yes, depending on whether or not it warps your expectation of sex.
- In the female sex, fake orgasms can happen when one is having sex. Fake orgasms are when a person pretends to have an orgasm when they don't feel one, usually to convince the other partner they're satisfied. Understanding fake orgasms is important, especially when dealing with sex therapy. Sometimes, there may be other reasons besides the partner not being satisfied. By understanding fake orgasms, it can help your relationship improve.
They're Hiding Something
In a relationship, sometimes the person avoids you, and you don't know why. It may be due to them hiding something.
Perhaps they are hiding traumatic events that have made them emotionally numb. They may have post-traumatic stress disorder, and something they experienced may have triggered it. Speaking about their problems makes them anxious or uncomfortable.
Alternatively, they may have financial support difficulties, such as dishonest spending, or may be practicing detachment because of infidelity. When you're detached, it sometimes means you're trying to cope with doing something wrong by avoiding certain situations, and not talking to your spouse may be you avoiding certain situations with them.
You Didn't Reach Your Desired Outcome
Sometimes, detachment is due to the fact that you didn't reach your desired outcome in life. Individuals create a disappointing feeling whenever they don't reach a goal, and after being disappointed so much, it may feel as though you're never going to reach your goals. You may feel numb as a result. Proper goal setting is important. If you're goal setting a bit too high, it can give you unreasonable expectations. You should make sure you're living a life where you win, but also make sure you're living a life where your goals are realistic.
Sometimes, your emotional stuntedness may actually be due to your loneliness, and curing loneliness is how you feel emotionally better. Loneliness can be a viscous cycle. If you feel stunted, it's hard to talk to people, making curing loneliness worse. It's important you try to talk to some people, though. Sometimes, you may say "I want to talk to that guy who always replies to my comment." Then, you may find yourself making a new friend. Support groups can help with this issue, too.
Relationship detachment can be due to outside problems as well. When you bring outside stress into a relationship, you may feel overwhelmed and feel like life you don't bother fighting anymore. You may be coping with anxiety or feel overwhelmed with the emotional demands of life, with these emotional demands including your job or other peers.
How to Fix Relationship Emotional Detachment
Figuring out how to fix your relationship when you don't feel anything is a good move. Just because you don't feel anything now doesn't mean you won't feel anything in the future. Sometimes, it's a passing phase, and you can learn to deal with your relationship detachment by the following.
- Find a therapist who deals with relationship and other personal issues. Also, find a therapist who can help with your own personal growth. A good therapist can teach techniques you can use when you're practicing detachment avoidance.
- Look at all of the aspects of your life. Are there any aspects that are stunting your own personal growth, and if so, can you reduce your stress or improve your situation?
- Communication with your partner is always important. When you don't feel right, it's important you speak to your partner and get them to help you, and that's the bottom line.
- When coping with anxiety or stress, make sure your partner knows and gives ways to help you. With that said, also speak to a therapist too.
If you just don't feel the relationship anymore, it may be worth it to take a break. Sometimes, you practicing detachment may just be a sign the relationship is coming to an end.
The Exact Definition of Detachment
Since detachment is the word of the day in this article, let's take a look at this word of the day in more detail. There are many definitions of detachment, but these definitions of detachment can vary. What is the definition of detachment? According to the dictionary, it's the state of being objective or aloof. Let's talk about this.
Being objective is a good thing. As we said, many will think you're the neutral party to events. Being objective simply means you look at the facts to the truest extent of your ability and don't let any emotions or biases get in the way. When we're objective, we inoculate ourselves against negative and positive biases. Why do we inoculate ourselves against negative and positive biases? Because our own opinions and emotions get in the way.
Someone who is detached may seem more objective as a result. They can get past the roller-coaster of a digital world and look at the news with all the facts. While other people can get off the roller-coaster of a digital world and look at everything through their own personal lens.
We can't talk about the word of the day and the definition of detachment without mentioning the other word, aloof. Aloof is when someone seems uncaring or distant from others. For example, instead of seeming objective about the body of troops in a war, we seem uncaring about the body of troops.
Being aloof can make you seem cool and collected, as if you took a detox vacation against your emotions, but some people seem to have taken a permanent detox vacation, and thus seem unfriendly.
And that is the definition of detachment, our word of the day.
How Do You Cope with Emotional Detachment?
Emotional detachment is a severe mental disorder that needs professional help. However, you can start without counseling by deciding to change how you relate to others around you. By consciously moving towards them emotionally, and allowing your control over emotions to relax, you will begin the process of feeling emotions again. You can also try journaling: write down descriptive, physical sentences about a situation or topic, and then allow yourself to move onto describing more emotional aspects of the situation.
People who struggle with emotional detachment may be afraid of their feelings. If you're emotionally detached, your emotions may overwhelm you to the point where you believe you can't handle them. Understandably, you would want to check out and stop feeling. Detaching from your feelings makes sense if it hurts to feel them. When you start to have a strong emotion such as anger or sadness, one technique you can use is to sit with your feeling, let it be there. Don't try to change it, repress it, or make it go away. Mindfulness is a technique used in DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) that helps people better tolerate their feelings and increase emotional distress tolerance. You don't have to fix your feelings. They will be there, and all you need to do is let yourself feel. And you don't need to stop your life because you have feelings. You can keep working or socializing with friends. Just explore those feelings.
Don't underestimate the power of friendships. You may be fearful of expressing your feelings to others, but some people care about you and want you to be well. Another thing you can try is telling a trusted friend or loved one how you feel, even if that feeling is numbness or emptiness. Accept the fact that you can't see to identify your emotions, and tell your friend about it. It's okay not to know how you feel, and it's also within your rights to ask for help. Your friend can listen as you express that you're having trouble feeling. And if you're having trouble forming meaningful connections with others, there is help out there in the form of therapy and counseling.
It can be concerning when you're unable to connect with other people, especially when you have a desire to develop and maintain intimate relationships. You can't grow close to another person if you're continually disassociating from them. What can you do if you suspect that you have Emotional Detachment Disorder? One of the best actions you can take is to seek mental health counseling.
People who have attachment disorders have benefited from therapy. One study from U.C Berkeley noted that having a secure sense of attachment made it possible for people to care for others in an altruistic way. Attachment plays a massive role in our lives and makes us able to both give and receive love. If you're struggling with developing and maintaining secure attachments, working with a therapist, whether that's one in your local area or an online counselor, can help.
How to Get Help
If you need help for your attachment issues, here are some ways to get help.
Find a Support Group
If you're looking to listen to the language of mental illness, talking to others who have the same problem as you do is a good move. A support group can help.
What is a support group? A support group is any gathering of people who has a similar problem as you do. Some support groups are in person, while others are online. You can easily find a support group for your problems online, and asking around in public can help you find a support group that is local. Some are shown publicly, and others may require a little bit of digging, but they are well worth it. They can help you lead a happier life.
Find a Psychiatrist
If you want to live a happier life, you may be able to find a psychiatrist who can help diagnose and teat your problems. A psychiatrist can help give you a happier life, and you can find a psychiatrist through online and in-person means.
Find a Treatment Center
If you want to lead a happier life, find a treatment center. When you feel extremely emotionally detached, individuals create a dangerous void that a professional can help. Find a treatment center near you. A treatment center is filled with people who know the language of mental health and can figure out why you feel empty. Look up a treatment center near you and pay the treatment center a visit.
One resource many are turning to is online therapy. Online therapy uses email and website in order to have a relationship with their clients. Anything spoken about in this field is kept private in the therapist's log, just like any other service. It's easy to search your topics and jump to navigation, too. You can even look at the best therapists listed today on the site.
With email and website online therapy, you can talk to a therapist on your own schedule. When you're emotionally stunted, it can be difficult to speak to anyone, so email and website online therapists can help you communicate. With email and website online therapy, an emotionally detached person can write down their own emotions and communicate in a much more appropriate manner. Someone in email and website online therapy is in no rush, and they can e-mail the content when they want to.
Online therapists have gone through as much teacher training as a regular therapist. They have read the medical dictionary or diagnosis dictionary, in fact, the unabridged dictionary, of mental health. This medical dictionary or diagnosis dictionary gives them all the knowledge they need.
An online therapist is good at affective forecasting. Affective forecasting is when you're able to predict your own and other's emotions.
Online therapists tend to have fewer people to maintain because of the competition, and with fewer people to maintain, they can go into more detail with your problem. With detachment, detachment therapy online may give you other ways of expressing your emotions.
There are many types of therapy as well online therapy can give you. Different types of therapy work for different people. Some people are more drawing detailed. Your mind may wander, and you may think "I'm a detail, detail, drawing detailed person." If your mind likes to wander, art therapy may be able to help you express your emotions better.
Online therapy can be more affordable. In addition, you may be able to find free online help. Free service from psychology experts is always a good thing.
Having online therapy in the comfort of your home is so nice. For example, you be around your cats. Are cats better at curing your mental illness? For some, the answer to "are cats better at curing…" is a resounding yes!
Online therapy is great for other emotions as well. When it comes to anger, we're wired to express it anonymously. You may wonder what this means. With online anger, we're wired to be more open because we are in front of a screen. Therapists can help you learn how to express anger in other productive means, so if you're seeking online therapy, this may be the better option under your belt.
If you're still voting against online therapy, we hope you give it a try and give others a reason to change votes. People change votes towards online therapy once they see just how effective it can be. BetterHelp can help you. If you've seen BetterHelp in a reading advertisement or word of mouth, here's why they can help.
BetterHelp Supports Healthy Attachments
The counselors at BetterHelp want you to have secure healthy attachments to loved ones. When you see an online counselor, they can help you learn what challenges you're facing when it comes to attaching to others. They will support you in mending broken attachments and creating healthy relationships. If you're struggling with Emotional Detachment Disorder, your online counselor can help you learn the source of your disassociation, whether that's trauma or otherwise, and start learning to cope. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors.
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Coping with Emotional Detachment Disorder is possible with the help of an online counselor. First, you need to learn what your triggers are. Why are you detaching from your feelings? Once you understand what's making you disassociate from your emotions, you and your therapist can work on figuring out how to tolerate your feelings better. You can work on emotional distress tolerance by using the following:
- Journaling - writing down your feelings in a private space where you can process them
- Mindfulness meditation - when you start to have big emotions, breathe through them, and don't try to fix them. Sit with your feelings and let them pass.
- Talking about your feelings with people you trust - Share your feelings with a friend or loved one that you trust. Learning to talk about your feelings will make you feel more comfortable expressing feelings regularly.
Emotional detachment disorder, as well as everything else that comes with it, can be difficult to process. Feeling detached from the world, even if you secretly feel some emotion, can make you come across as standoffish or aloof towards others.
In an age where everyone expects you to have an emotional reaction or feel extremely empathetic, you may come across as someone who doesn't have any emotion at all. Ironically, people who tell you to be empathetic may not be empathetic towards your ability to show emotions.
If you feel emotionally detached, there is hope. With practice and emotional regulation, you can be better about expressing your emotions. Counselors and therapists may be able to help you, and one way you can do so is through online therapy.
Services such as BetterHelp allow people who are experiencing emotional detachment to be able to express their emotions better. With online therapy, you can be able to formulate your emotions in a better fashion and show them in a way more people can understand.
So if you need some help for your lack of emotions, there is hope. Speak to an online counselor today and see what they can cook up to help you with your emotional issues.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Do I have emotional detachment disorder?
If you're experiencing emotional detachment symptoms, the best place to start is with your primary care provider. Your primary care provider can address your concerns and rule out any physical health issues that may be causing symptoms that mirror emotional detachment. A primary care physician can provide you with a diagnosis, assessment, and referral to a licensed therapist if EDD is discovered.
What causes emotional detachment disorder?
Emotional detachment disorder is a personality disorder that can be caused by many things including childhood trauma, adulthood trauma, abuse, and side-effects of other mental health disorders. Trauma is one of the main contributing factors to emotional detachment disorder. People who experience trauma may become numb as a defense mechanism that later shows up as EDD.
What does it mean to be emotionally unavailable?
When someone is emotionally unavailable they may not demonstrate high levels of physical intimacy or availability. People who are emotionally unavailable don't (or are unable to) invest in the emotions and feelings of others. As a result, they may be perceived as cold or uncaring (which is unintentional in this case.)
What happens when you repress emotions?
When you repress your emotions you don't allow yourself to feel the effects of the circumstances around you. For example, people who experience a traumatic event like abuse or domestic violence may try to normalize the behavior to themselves and deny that they feel hurt, afraid, and ashamed. Repressing your emotions doesn't erase them. It only causes the emotions to express themselves in another way. Repressed emotions can show up in the form of drug abuse, alcohol abuse, and sexual promiscuity.
How do you cure repressed emotions?
The first step to take on the journey to curing repressed emotions is to admit to yourself that you have them. If you've been in denial about your feelings and you've begun to realize that it's taking a serious toll on your life, the next step to take is to discuss your options with a licensed professional therapist.
What is it called when you have a lack of emotion?
People who display a consistent lack of emotion that have been diagnosed by a licensed medical provider are said to have an emotional detachment disorder (EDD).
How can you tell if someone is emotionally damaged?
People who display symptoms of emotional detachment disorder may have a hard time establishing close personal relationships. If someone reports that they have a history of childhood trauma, domestic violence, or other similar circumstances, they may be experiencing the effects of EDD or another mental health disorder. Contact a licensed medical professional or therapist to find out for sure.
What it feels like to be emotionally unavailable?
Suffering from personality disorders like EDD or borderline personality disorder can be emotionally and physically painful for the person with a diagnosis of EDD. People with this condition often feel physical and emotional pain related to their inability to physically and emotionally connect with others. While it may seem like the person with EDD is the cold and distant one -- they are often suffering tremendously on the inside and don't know how to express it.
How do you know if you're broken?
It's not uncommon for people who suffer from an attachment disorder or borderline personality disorder to feel as if they're broken and unable to be put back together again. Having an attachment disorder or personality disorders like EDD can make it difficult to connect with others, but there are ways to heal and restore normal emotional functioning.