When Needing A Shift In Your Life: How To Not Have Feelings
Have you been showing and expressing care exuberantly that sometimes it is already hurting you? Yes, to love and care offer meaningful experiences. But sometimes, there will be a point in our lives that we just don't want to feel anymore and start being careless, apathetic, and selfish.
Sometimes when we care too much we tend to neglect about ourselves to the point that we lose our very own true self. We no longer know our own personality, our wants, our own desires. Do I really like chocolate ice cream, or I just learned to love it because my best friend whom I cared so much likes it? It is true that we can be influenced (or even brainwashed) by anybody around us, especially if we truly show great affection to them.
Who could you be if you dared to let go of your present self? Tapping into your creative energy and using it as a tool in your quest towards self-discovery can be enhanced by asking yourself what it is that you truly want out of life, outside of other's expectations. Everyone is stimulated by different things, finding joy from different sources, activities or people. Find the things in life that electrify you, allowing yourself the independence and leisure that are the cornerstones of so much creative success. Gaining satisfaction from your life can be as simple as channeling your interests and energy into activities that allow you to use your mind how you prefer. With this approach, it won't be so much about how to not have feelings, but rather how to have the feelings that you want.
How to Not Have Feelings:
Well, the first thing that you should do is to let go of everything that you have right now. Start a new life. Reinvent yourself. Maybe move to a new place to start all over again. Reconnect with yourself and start to learn more about what a great person you were prior to being a slave for others.
Don't always blame yourself. Not everything is your fault. People commit mistakes, that including you. But never always assume that the buck stops with you. This is a nitty-gritty world we live in and we can only do less. The rest will have to come from others. If you believe that you have done your part very well, then leave and move on.
You are not a superhero. You cannot save the world. Despite the saying that small steps can save the world, reality will sink in that it cannot happen if you are the only one that is doing it. If you are helping a person that does not accept help, it's useless. So, stick to your rule of being a real person with a soul but always remember that you don't wear a cape all the time.
Live your life to the fullest. Follow your own rules and your own happiness. How many times have you sacrificed before and paved the way for others' happiness? Do yourself a favor and start loving yourself.
At the onset of this article, you already read the words careless, apathetic, and selfish. These have negative connotations, but if you apply these to persons who have been living because of the dictates of others, then these words are appropriate to cut the ties, break lose, and start living the life for yourself.
For guidance and psychological support, it is always important to seek professional mental help. BetterHelp is an online mental help community that is able to provide therapy on problems like this.