7 Ways that Spreading Love And Happiness Can Benefit You And Others Around You

Updated December 16, 2022by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Many believe that if we attempt to live our lives with love and happiness integrated with our sense of self, it is contagious to the people we encounter daily. 

While it’s unlikely that people you don’t know or don’t know very well will immediately love you simply because you’re near them. It means that the love you feel makes you act in different ways than you would if you didn't have that love. And those actions and ways of reacting are going to make a difference in how other people feel. 

There are many benefits to making a concerted effort to project love in our daily lives, and there are small steps we can take to attempt to spread love and happiness to others. 

The Benefits Of Spreading Love And Happiness

  1. It’s Good For Your Health

Being a positive person is good for you in several different ways. Science proves that those who approach life with a positive outlook not only have a better experience but, they're less likely to feel depressed or anxious, which may have an impact on physical health as well as mental. A positive outlook can better equip us to cope with and move beyond difficulties and stress.

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  1. You'll Feel Better

Positivity helps your body release chemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine, creating an overall sense of wellness. This boost to the brain’s chemistry may strengthen your immune system and better prepare you for fighting both smaller and more serious illnesses. For example, studies suggest that oxytocin may play a role in therapeutic recovery for certain types of cancer because it reverses the negative effects of the stress hormone cortisol on the body’s natural ability to fight the disease. 

  1. You’ll Have Better Relationships

When you distribute feelings of happiness and love in your vicinity, it’s likely to attract the same, simply because people are more inclined to want to spend time with those who make them feel good. If you influence people positively in this way, it may cultivate better relationships and, with them, a strong support system of people you can trust and rely on. 

  1. You’ll Help Create Positive Change

People with innate feelings of love for others tend to have healthy feelings of self-love as well. Self-love cultivates a healthy sense of self, which often leads to greater confidence in our abilities. This confidence often leads us to make positive choices in our lives that, in turn, affect the choices of the people around us in a positive way. 

  1. You’ll Reinforce A Positive Worldview

When we feel negative, it’s easier to notice negative things around us, too. For instance, if we’re angry about something, we’re more likely to focus our attention on the person who cuts us off in traffic rather than the person who let us change lanes in front of them. The same is true when we feel positive. When we enter the world with the intention of spreading kindness to others, we’ll be more likely to notice things that reinforce a positive mood over things that bring us down. 

  1. Make Someone's Day

When we’re having a bad day, it may be easier to notice the things around us that reinforce that view- but encountering someone with a strong positive persona can change that. When we radiate happiness and love from our being, we can have a powerful impact on someone else’s experience. A genuine smile or small acts of kindness may go a long way toward changing someone’s day for the better. 

  1. You’ll Be More Supportive

When people are happy, they’re likely to better support the people around them. That might mean providing encouragement to friends, family, or colleagues to pursue something that they love. It can mean you’ll help the people in your life with difficulties or support them when they must make difficult choices. 

Ways To Spread Love To Others

Projecting love toward others doesn’t necessarily require a large expenditure of time, energy, or money. Rather, you can do small things and still make a big impact on someone's life. 

Say Something Nice - Compliments are an effective way to make others feel good about themselves, as long as they’re mindful and genuine. For instance, taking a moment to let someone know they did a good job on a task, or they made a smart choice at work. Complimenting others on their appearance can make people feel good about themselves; just make sure you know them well enough to know how the compliment will be received.

Extend Help - Helping others selflessly benefits everyone involved in a positive way. It can be as small as taking care of the household chores without being asked or helping a stranger carry their shopping to their car. No matter whom you choose to help, it can go a long way toward encouraging others to do the same. 

Say Thank You - Extending a heartfelt thanks lets others know you don’t take their kindnesses for granted. If you make it a point to say thank you or express appreciation for others, you’ll make them feel good, but you’ll also reinforce those behaviors and increase the likelihood they’ll continue to do nice things for others. 

Practice Active Listening – Most people feel valued when they see that others are paying attention to them when they speak. Whether it’s a colleague giving a presentation at work or a friend confiding in you about their difficulties, actively listening lets them know you care and value what they have to say. 

Show Them Their Impact - Some people don’t feel that they’re an important presence in the lives of others. Communicating to them that they have improved your life or the lives of others will likely go a long way toward creating positivity and happiness.

Write A Note - Random, unexpected notes of encouragement or sentiment will spread happiness to others and encourage feelings of warmth. Whether you leave a short note of encouragement somewhere for a stranger to find or write a letter to someone special, notes of encouragement can be a great way to improve anyone’s mood. 

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Sometimes it’s not so easy to feel happy or positive. For instance, people with depression or anxiety disorders may find it difficult to get out of bed on some days, much less summon the emotional strength to spread feelings of love and happiness to others. If this is your experience, it’s important to understand that it doesn’t make you a bad or “broken” person if you don’t feel happy enough on the inside to express it on the outside. 

It's also important to understand that you aren’t alone; many people have similar experiences. In cases of anxiety or depression, speaking to a therapist is an excellent way to begin the healing process and cultivate healthier, more positive feelings. Some find it difficult to speak to a therapist. Sometimes it’s for personal reasons, such as preconceptions of therapy or feelings of stigma about seeing a mental health professional; sometimes, it’s for practical reasons, such as limited time or accessibility to transportation. 

Regardless of the barriers, online therapy can solve many of the problems that keep people from seeking help when they need it. Platforms like BetterHelp provide an exclusive, safe way to connect with a therapist on your own time schedule anywhere you feel comfortable. And research suggests that online counseling is just as effective as traditional face-to-face sessions. 

You deserve to be happy, and with the rise of online therapy, you can speak with an expert with experience in treating depression, anxiety, trauma, and more to begin the journey to healing. 

Below, you’ll find some firsthand client reviews to see what others are saying about our services:

“I’ve worked with Judy for several months and she offered a sympathetic ear and gave really good advice on how to change my thinking (i.e., to focus on strengths, take note of positive things, and to focus on being kind to myself and others).”

“I’ve been working with Nina for 9 months now and she’s made a tremendous impact on my life in a positive way. I’ve done so much healing, personal growth, and self-development, thanks to her and my mindset has become more positive. Nina doesn’t judge ever but she will hold you accountable and call you out. I always appreciate her insight and she has been the most effective therapist for me; this could be related to the fact that we have gone through similar life experiences and are part of the same culture. Either way, I appreciate everything she has done for me. I always joke with her that I’ll be sad when I’m done with therapy because it will feel like I’m losing a close friend and not just my therapist.”

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