9 Mindset And Lifestyle Shifts So You Can Finally Say, “I Love My Life”

Updated October 5, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

Can you say that you love your life? Are you happy with it, or does it seem impossible to achieve your dreams? Do you compare your life to other people's? You may be in need of a mindset shift, and these nine mindset and lifestyle shifts can make you love your life.

Mindset Shifts: Software Updates For Your Belief System

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No matter what your current life situation is, if you can't say "I love my life," it's because your current mindset doesn't line up with where you want to go, or who you want to be.

Your current mindset may have worked at some point, or it may have gotten you to where you are today. Sometimes we cling to beliefs that are a bit outdated, and they can keep us stuck and prevent us from moving forward.

You can compare mindset shifts with software updates on your iPhone. If you don't update it, your phone slows down and doesn't function as well. The same is true for us and our mindsets.

How To Decide If You Need A Mindset Shift

Most of us don't receive notifications letting us know when we need a mindset shift, and we also don't wake up one day, saying, "You know what? Today would be a good day for a mindset shift."

So, how do you know when you're due for one?

If you're feeling uncomfortable, experiencing more than a normal amount of emotional discord, or your body is feeling "off", it may be time to check in with your mindset.

When you feel a certain way, it's important to pay attention and honor that. That's because, as leading neurologist, Antonio Damasio says, "feelings are not just the shady side of reason…they help us reach decisions as well."

The only problem is, over time, we get good at ignoring our discomfort and unrest. Learning to be mindful, slow down and listen to our emotions and feelings can reveal that it may be time to adjust the way you're viewing life.

How Mindsets Work

Mindset shifts can help you create a life you love - a life that's different from the one you have now. That doesn't mean you should wait for that better life to arrive before you start loving your life.

If you look at time as a horizontal line, we can put off a life we love indefinitely, can't we?

That's where mindset shifts come in. They're the vertical spikes that punctuate your horizontal journey. Mindset shifts are like an EKG, adding meaningful beats to our life path.

In short, mindset shifts help you to start creating a life you love today, and they're something you carry with you along the way. Therefore, the life you love is a gradual process, instead of a clear-cut arrival.

So, without further ado, let's explore nine powerful mindsets that can help you start loving your life.

1. It's Not What You See  But How You See It

Mindset shifts are not about turning your life upside down. Instead, it's more like adjusting your eyeglass prescription. Because let's face it: most people can't (and shouldn't) sell their houses and travel the world in their own Eat, Pray, Love story.

Because even if you do escape where you are and see new things, you're the same person wherever you go. If you bring a negative mindset with you, it will cloud everything you see, too.

So, it's not about what you see, but how you see it. Do you tend to focus on the negative or the positive? Is the glass half empty or half full?

Experiences happen, and they're pretty objective. It's only when they happen to us that they have any meaning. We name things as good and bad, and everything in between.

There's a lot of power in that. That's because you get to decide how you see things. The question is, how will you choose to see your life?

2. The Universe Is For You, Not Against You

This idea might seem a bit New Age-y, but even Albert Einstein was on board. He once said, "The most important decision we make is whether we believe in a friendly or hostile universe."

So, if the idea of an abundant universe doesn't jive with you, you can replace it with something more meaningful to you, like God, Life, Spirit, the Source, etc.

The bottom line is that when we think life is out to get us, we move through life distrustful, jaded and frankly, miserable.

What if you believe that the universe wants the very best for you and that the universe actually can help you obtain the best life possible?

If that's your mindset, don't you think you'd be more willing to dream big and take steps to make your dreams happen - confident that dreams can and do happen?

Finally, if you're still not on board with the whole Universe argument, just take life into your own hands, remembering the words of the great inventor, Henry Ford:

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't - - you're right."

3. Feel The Way You Want To Feel - Right Now

Danielle LaPorte is a of Oprah's  SuperSoul 100, and the author of many best-selling books, including Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul. In Desire Map, LaPorte believes our "procedures of achievement are upside down."

That's because we create bucket lists and to-do lists to achieve success. If you ask LaPorte, this should be the second step. You see, all of our lists and goals are fueled by a deep longing to feel a specific feeling.

LaPorte advocates that you first get clear on how you want to feel, and from there, figure out what which outer actions will make this feeling possible for you.

4. Make Gratitude Your State Of Mind

Despite what it seems, the universe isn't material. Everything is vibrating in an energy field, and that includes you and your thoughts. What's more, similar vibrational frequencies are attracted to each other. Like attracts like - it's the Law of Attraction.

That means your current life situation is what it is because it matches the vibrations your thoughts give off. Your thoughts have helped to create the life you have today.

You can change that by choosing to be grateful. According to self-improvement and metaphysics teacher, Randy Monk, "Embracing and maintaining the feeling of gratitude produces a high-frequency vibration, creating a perpetual petition for positive experiences."

If you want to love your life, it's time to be grateful for all the good things that are already there. The good thing is you can choose to be grateful, independent of how you're feeling.

Gratitude journals and gratitude meditations can help you create a more grateful state of mind.

5. Love, Value And Accept Yourself

We all want to be loved, valued and accepted, but that means you must love, value and accept yourself first. Do you?

Are your actions and beliefs in line with your values and dreams? If not, your self-esteem, self-confidence, and pride will plummet. That's because you continue to censor yourself, sell out and let yourself down.

If you want to say, "I love my life," you have to be able to say, "I love me," by loving, valuing and accepting yourself for who you are.

This silently shows others how to treat you, too: with love and respect, which can create healthy and fulfilling relationships for you.

6. No One Can Read Your Mind

One of the biggest assumptions we make in our interactions is that people are mind readers. This assumption is a recipe for disaster for many reasons.

With this mindset, you take everything personally, because you think someone is fully aware of what you don't like, and yet, they do it anyways. The truth is, people, don't always know what we want, need and like.

It's our job to make that clear. What this mindset does is dump our responsibility onto other people. It's up to us to explain and express what we need and want, and by not taking responsibility for that, you can get bitter, angry and resentful.

Instead of moving through life thinking everyone is a mind reader, take steps to communicate more and better.

7. Have You Outgrown Your Current Life Situation?

As we move through life, we get off at different stations. Sometimes we overstay our welcome. What does this look like in real life? Honestly, it could mean everything and anything.

Maybe you've outgrown a certain lifestyle, in the same way you aren't digging that jacket from 2007. Maybe your career is no longer fulfilling you, or maybe your relationship is holding you back.

It's not that these life situations are mistakes or "wrong." It's just that they're no longer serving you and it's time to move on. It can be very challenging not only to recognize this but to be brave enough to do something about it.

By adopting the mindset that we do, in fact, outgrow certain people, places, and things, it can be easier to move on.

8. Get Clear On What You Want

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In his book, The Compound Effect, Darren Hardy, many ideas on how to build a life you love with small, incremental steps.

One of his tips is to get excruciatingly clear on what you want in life. So, instead of saying, "I want to fall in love with a beautiful woman," he got very specific. In fact, Hardy filled pages, describing his future wife in great detail, including her height, hair color, eye color, personality and so much more.

The incredible thing is that not only did that exact woman exist, but Hardy found her. Or, perhaps we could say, he attracted her by operating from the belief that the universe is friendly and for us.

So, if you want a different life and you want to say, "I love my life," you have to get crystal clear on what that life looks like.

To help you do so, you can create vision boards, journal, pray, or take other action steps to make your dream a reality.

9. Ready, Get Set, Go.

Even if you don't have all your ducks lined up, or a predictable future ahead, it's time to get set and go! The truth is, we learn by doing, and by being active participants in our own lives, not by waiting.

If you want to say, "I love my life," you can't sit on the sidelines anymore. Those are seats for people who are constantly comparing, criticizing everyone, and waiting for things to be perfect.

It's also important to realize that you're in the driver's seat. So, there's no more time to waste, or waiting for someone to rescue you, or even blaming people for your current life situation.

Saying, "I love my life" might seem lightyears away, but with these powerful mindset shifts, you can start loving your life today and create a life you'll love in the future, too.

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