How Well Do You Know Your Spouse? Here’s How You Can Find Out!

You Know Your Spouse Better Than Most People In Your Life. But Do You?
Relationships Can Be Easily Worked On In Online Therapy


How well do you know your spouse? You've probably heard before that no matter how long you know a person, you can never really decipher everything about them. People change, which is why many couples end up separating or divorced after a few years of being together.

Being aware of this aspect of people's personalities is a good way to adapt as a couple throughout the years. By accepting that we don't know everything about our spouse, we can be open to learning and growing together.

How Well Do You Know Your Spouse? Here's How You Can Find Out!

  1. Answer Questions About Each Other As a Couple

A simple Google search for 'questions for couples' brings up 121,000,000 results, like this one from Buzzfeed.

Answering these kinds of questions about your spouse, and potentially having them do the same about you, can help you find out how well you know each other. At the same time, it also gives the two of you an opportunity to learn more about one another.

  1. Talk to Other People That They Are Close To

You don't necessarily want to do this without your partner's knowledge or consent, but talking to a mom, dad, brother, sister, or best friend can be a good way to gage how well you know your significant other.

These people have known your spouse for most, if not all their life. Asking questions and talking to people who know your spouse well can reveal a lot about how well you know him or her.

  1. Try Doing Thoughtful Things for Them on a Regular Basis

One big way that a spouse can gage how well they know their partner is to do thoughtful things for them on a regular basis.

This forces you to think about what would make your spouse happy, keeping your romance alive and encouraging you to keep learning more about each other.


  1. Speak with a Counsellor

If your relationship is going through a rough patch and you are questioning how well you know each other, you might want to consider going to couple's therapy or speaking with a counsellor. Relationships are hard and there is no shame in asking for help.

A counsellor can see patterns and problems in relationships that you might be blind to. BetterHelp is an affordable and secure online option that matches you with licensed mental health professionals that you can message any time, with optional video and/or phone sessions.

  1. Spend Time Doing New Things Together

Spending time together is a great way to find out how well you know someone, and your spouse is no exception. People change over time and the best way for you to change with them is to be with them.

You Know Your Spouse Better Than Most People In Your Life. But Do You?
Relationships Can Be Easily Worked On In Online Therapy


Changing up your routine and doing new things together allows you to explore and learn new things about the world and each other as a couple. Sometimes separation is healthy and needed in relationships, but if you and your spouse are meant to be together, you will need time together to fix your relationship.


Whether you are in a healthy or rocky relationship with your spouse, you might come to ask yourself how well you know them. If you feel like the two of you are drifting apart, try out some of these tips to start assessing how bad it is.

Hopefully, this post will help you learn more about your partner and possibly spark a new stage in your relationship - or show that you might not be right together.

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