Frequently Asked Questions About Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD)
Is ROCD a Real Thing?
Obsessive-compulsive disorder can come in many different forms, and the distressing and intrusive thoughts, which are known as “themes”, can involve just about any topic.
Relationships are an example of one of these themes, and the thoughts surrounding their relationship, which are relationship-related obsessions, can create a sense of worry and doubt, and the compulsions used to provide relief for the anxiety can also cause damage to the relationship as well. These are signs of relationship OCD, which is a very real subtype of OCD that affects millions of people.
What Is Obsessive Behavior In Relationships?
People who struggle with ROCD will often have obsessive thoughts, which they can’t stop thinking about, such as:
Wondering if their partner is cheating on them
Worrying that they aren’t good enough for their partner
Second-guessing if they belong together or if there is any love, to begin with
Trying to find the “perfect” love
In response to these types of obsessive, relationship thoughts, which can often be classified as relationship-centered or partner-focused symptoms, people will perform compulsive behaviors such as seek validation and reassurance, make rules for their partner, or constantly question their partner’s qualities, like weighing pros and cons and reflect on every detail about the relationship.
What Causes ROCD?
OCD, in general, can have biological causes, like neurochemicals and genetics; however, obsessions and compulsions are also learned behaviors too, and someone can develop relationship obsessions and fears because of something that they’ve experienced in the past or witnessed something happen in someone else’s relationship.
For example, if an individual went through a horrible or traumatic breakup once, they may constantly doubt themselves and wonder if they are with the right person. These types of thoughts can be destructive towards future romantic relationships.
Can ROCD Go Away?
Like any subtype of OCD, the good news is that ROCD thoughts and compulsions can be beaten, but they won’t go away on their own.
It will require you to change your thoughts and behaviors towards these fears, and this can be done by working with a therapist who uses methods such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or exposure and response prevention (ERP).
Is Jealousy A Sign of Love?
Jealousy can be a sign that you greatly value a person’s love and attention; however, it also means that you are also dependent on their validation, and it can imply that you lack trust and desire control.
If you are being overly jealous and insecure, you are dealing with negative emotions and if becomes frequent or pathological to the point where you can’t stop or control your compulsive behaviors, you may be dealing with relationship-related OCD symptoms.
How Do I Stop Being Jealous And Insecure In My Relationship?
Jealousy and insecurity, while very common in romantic relationships, are unhealthy, and can drain the emotional energy out of couples.
These two problems can be addressed by working with a counselor or therapist who can help you improve your communication skills, develop better-coping skills, which can then allow you to be more honest and open with your partner.
By doing this, you can build self-confidence and trust, which will strengthen your relationship, rather than bring it down.
Therapy Can Help You Manage Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD)
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