ESFJ Personality Type: The Consul

Updated October 6, 2022 by BetterHelp Editorial Team

In the 1940's two remarkable women, Katherine Briggs and her daughter, Isabel Myers, developed a personality test known as MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator). The purpose of the MBTI is to discover what your personality type is and to use that knowledge to achieve a happy and prosperous life. Knowing your personality type opens the door to the deep self-understanding that will motivate you to enhance your strengths and learn to overcome your weaknesses. Your personal growth, relationships, and career are much more likely to be successful and happy if you have a deep understanding of why you do the things you do and think the way you think.

The 16 Personality Types

Myers-Briggs identifies 4 major personality types, each divided into 4 sub-types.

Analysts: architect (INTJ), logician (INTP), commander (ENTJ), debater (ENTP).

Diplomats: advocate (INFJ), mediator (INFP), protagonist (ENFJ), campaigner (ENFP).

Sentinels: logistician (ISTJ), defender (ISFJ), executive (ESTJ), consul (ESFJ).

Explorers: virtuoso (ISTP), adventurer (ISFP), entrepreneur (ESTP), entertainer (ESFP).

In this advice series, we're going to explore each one of these personality types starting with the consul or ESFJ.

Overview Of The ESFJ Or Consul Personality Type

ESFJ or Consul Personality Type is the abbreviation for extraversion, sensing, feeling, and judgment.

Extraversion: ESFJ's are the opposite of introverts, they're sociable and love interacting with a wide circle of friends and acquaintances. They have lots of energy and are enthusiastic.

Sensing: ESFJ's like concrete facts, and details rather than the big picture. They live in the reality of the here and now instead of what may happen at some unknown future date.

Feeling: ESFJ's feel things rather than think them. They seldom use cold logic; they make their decisions based on what they feel is best for the people around them. They're ruled by their hearts, not their heads. ESFJ's are both diplomatic and empathetic.

Judgment: ESFJ's are planners. Whether it's a holiday or the route they drive to work, they will plan it in detail. They like predictability and routine; a surprise birthday party may not go down well with an ESFJ. They're organized and disciplined. Checklists and schedules are their favorite things.

ESFJs Are Often Warm & Loving, But Sometimes People-Pleasers

They hate conflict, enjoy being in charge, and are easily hurt by slights, real or imagined. They show their emotions readily and wear their hearts on their sleeves. At times, this can be a weakness since ESFJ's can have trouble setting boundaries. This is a weakness that can be overcome with the help of a  certified BetterHelp counselor.

ESFJ personality types enjoy organizing social get-togethers as much as they enjoy entertaining their friends and family; they'll do whatever they can to make the people around them happy. World politics or quantum physics may bore ESFJ's; they're much more interested in gossip and what wallpaper the neighbors have put up in their bedroom. But they're not malicious gossips; they strive to be kind and decent human beings.

ESFJ's or consul personality types make up about twelve percent of the population.

Consul Personality

ESFJ Personality Traits

ESFJ's Are Popular

ESFJ's are the ultimate people persons. They're social butterflies that need to interact with other people often, but while they like to be the center of attention, they are also good listeners. A consul personality or ESFJ personality type won't pretend to be interested in you, they genuinely are. They work the room at a party, making time to talk to everyone. They use sensing and judgment to understand others in a detailed way, and then use that understanding to be supportive and helpful. ESFJ's bring out the best in other people.

People generally like ESFJ's because they have that rare skill of making the people they come into contact with feel good about themselves. People with an ESFJ personality type is also sensitive to any discord and will step in to defuse tension and restore harmony.

ESFJ's And Social Status

ESFJ consul personality types are more interested in outward appearances of fashion, beauty, and social status than thinking about politics or philosophy. On the face of it, this may seem to be shallow and of little value, but the opposite is true because the ESFJ personality type uses social status to help others and do good in the world. Helping others is what makes ESFJ's tick.

ESFJ's Are Dependable

When an ESFJ says that they're going to do something, you can count on it. ESFJ's take their responsibilities very seriously and do whatever it takes to get things done. They are easily recognizable in social situations: they're the ones doing what needs to be done long before others have even noticed that something needs doing. ESFJ personality types are take-charge people.

ESFJ's Need Approval

While ESFJ's are warm and caring and go out of their way to make others feel good about themselves, they, in turn, need the approval of others to feel good about themselves. ESFJ personality types get personal satisfaction from making others happy and are easily hurt when they feel unappreciated. Being naturally kind themselves, they don't understand unkindness in others. While ESFJ's enjoy being role models and love being in leadership positions and positions of power, they do not take criticism well and need lots of acknowledgment to feel good about themselves.

ESFJ's Have High Values

ESFJ consul personalities have such strong moral values and clear ideas of right and wrong that they don't hesitate to express their opinions. Their value system doesn't come from mysticism, philosophy, or inner reflection and deep thought, but instead is the product of the world around them. ESFJ's will generally take on the religion and social values, or any other sort of moral code, from their parents and community without giving it much thought themselves. It follows that if an ESFJ's parents or community has skewed morals about race, gender, or other sensitive issues, the ESFJ will take on those skewed morals without a second thought while believing all the time that they have a strong moral code.

If you consider yourself an ESFJ personality type, you might need to work on accepting that people have many cultures and beliefs that are different from theirs, and that there can be more than one truth. Different doesn't mean wrong, and ESFJ's that open their minds will also open new worlds.

ESFJ's Like Control

ESFJ's are happiest when they have structure and organization. They're quickly bored by abstract theories and analysis, but will happily create order out of chaos, and they'll do very well at tasks that need this sort of skill. ESFJ personality types love organizing parties and events, but unplanned get-togethers and pop-in visitors will cause them some stress. ESFJ's tend to be manipulative to get what they want, and their need to control their environment can result in relationship difficulties if the people in their lives don't want to be controlled.

ESFJ's Follow The Rules

ESFJ's obey the law and have little sympathy for those who don't. They're traditionalists and have little understanding of why someone would be anti-establishment. The ESFJ personality type embraces the rules and norms of the society they live in without ever questioning them.

ESFJ's And Career Options

ESFJ's enjoy working in a team that is motivated and supportive. They prefer a role where they can organize and help others in a practical way. They do well at jobs that need them to pay attention to detail. When they're given clear goals, ESFJ personality types will follow procedure and work methodically, organizing people along the way, and complete their tasks on time and to a high standard. They're happiest in a friendly, conflict-free, and structured environment. There are many career options where the ESFJ will do very well: nursing, teaching, social work, police officer, anything where they can practice their strong value system and help others. ESFJ's are primary caregivers.

ESFJs Are Often Warm & Loving, But Sometimes People-Pleasers

ESFJ's Strengths

ESFJ's are caregivers. The ESFJ personality type helps others with genuine warmth and empathy, listens to their problems, and offers support and encouragement.

ESFJ's are team players with excellent leadership skills. The ESFJ personality type will organize social events with talent and pay attention to detail.

ESFJ's are confident and make excellent public speakers. They love to entertain and go the extra mile to ensure that every one of their guests has the best possible time.

ESFJ's are friendly and outgoing. The ESFJ personality type much prefers being in the company of others than being on their own.

ESFJ's are conscientious; they always do their best at whatever needs to be done.

ESFJ's are responsible and dependable; you can count on the loyalty and devotion of the ESFJ personality type.

ESFJ personality types love family and tradition.

ESFJ's Weaknesses

ESFJ personality types don't like change. Adapting to a new home or a new job is not easy for an ESFJ.

ESFJ's can be intolerant. They're critical of anything that is different to their own beliefs and value system.

ESFJ's stay in their comfort zone. The ESFJ personality type doesn't want to be different or try new things.

ESFJ's are easily hurt and don't handle criticism well.

ESFJ's can be very needy. They're generous and loving, but ESFJ personality types have a strong need for love, approval, and validation for everything they do.

ESFJ's want to control everything, including the people in their lives.

ESFJ's sometimes respect laws and authority beyond reason; they blindly follow and seldom question.

ESFJ's need to help others sometimes means they neglect their own needs. It's can also be true that ESFJ personality types insist on helping someone who neither needs nor wants help.

In Conclusion

  • The ESFJ personality type is warm, loving, helpful and caring. ESFJ's are organized and energetic, and they're most comfortable in a secure and stable environment. A traditional Thanksgiving dinner surrounded by friends and family is one of their happiest times.
  • ESFJ personality types can sometimes feel insecure, and this can lead them to be people-pleasers. They can also be controlling, manipulative, and oversensitive. Perhaps the biggest challenge to the ESFJ is their oversensitivity; they tend to feel hurt by slights that only exist in their imagination.
  • Contact us at BetterHelp; our trained therapists will help you open your mind to new possibilities by overcoming prejudice and oversensitivity to become a well-balanced and happier person.


Who is ESFJ most compatible with?

ESFJ are warm-hearted people who highly value their close personal relationships. They are valued for their genuine warm and caring personality traits, their unique ability to make people feel appreciated and bringing out the best in others. Relationships and activities of caring are central to their lives.

They are mostly poor at handling conflict. ESFJ tend to be conscious of social order, their social status and what others think about them. They take any sort of criticism as a general indictment of their character. In the face of negative feedback, or the absence of positive affirmation, ESFJ may become very depressed and down on themselves. It is advised they try to ensure that this does not affect their close relationships with others.

Although any two well-developed individual can enjoy a healthy relationship, ESFJs natural partners are the ISFPs and the INFPs. The Extraverted Feeling dominant function of the ESFJs is best matched with someone whose dominant function is Introverted Feeling. 

How rare is ESFJ?

ESFJ being an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers stand for Extraverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging. The sixteen personality types include ENFJ, ENFP, ENTJ, ENTP, ESFJ, ESFP, ESTJ, ESTP, ISFJ, ISFP, ISTJ, ISTP, INFJ, INFP, INTJ, INTP.

ESFJ represents individuals who are energized by time spent with others (Extraverted), who focuses on facts and details rather than ideas and concepts (Sensing), who makes decision influenced by feelings and values (Feeling) and prefer planning and orderliness to spontaneity and flexibility. They have a strict moral code and look for others to do the same. They often see things in terms of black and white, right and wrong giving value to facts and details rather than mere hunches, much more interested in the absolute truth of situations rather than mere assumption. ESFJ are sometimes referred to as Provider personalities because of their interest in taking care of others in practical way.

ESFJ is the second most common personality types according to Myer Briggs’ MBTI personality traits self-report inventory designed to test personality profiles of individuals and to identify a person’s personality type, strengths, weaknesses, and preferences) amongst population. ENFJs contributes to about 12 percent of the general population, with an estimate of 17 percent being women and approximately eight percent being men.

There are famous ESFJs who are quite successful and popular in their chosen and test career paths such as politics, sports, journalism, and entertainment, etc. Famous ESFJs politicians include William Mckinley (US President), Prince William, Bishop Desmond Tutu, John Connally, etc. Also, famous ESFJs sport figures include Terry Bradshaw, Steve Spurrier, Nancy Kerrigan, Joe Gibbs, etc. There are also famous ESFJs actors such as Hugh Jackman, Jessica Biel, Dany Glover, Eva Longoria, Jennifer Garner, etc.

Are ESFJ smart?

ESFJs are quite proficient when it comes to understanding people and the practical matters of what it means to love people. They are naturally pragmatic set of people who believe in working hard to take care of tasks other may feel to difficult to accomplish. They are strongly connected to emotions, especially the emotions of others. They care about people’s feelings and want to be as supportive as possible towards them.

One of ESFJ strengths is that they often have a natural understanding of people and their needs which motivates them to help others. They excel in understanding the needs and expectations of bosses which most others find quite difficult to comprehend. They have an outgoing personality most of the time and find ways to make people, family and friends around them feel comfortable and at ease. This ability comes from their natural understanding of the emotions of others. This uncanny skill to read people and sense what their feelings are without asking is certainly a type of intelligence which is very useful. The ability to know what people want and need before they do serves as a help for ESFJs to navigate around situations which seems too difficult for other people.

ESFJs are primarily practical set of people who are interested in getting things done efficiently. ESFJ the provider so called, make things happen rather than just dreaming that things will work out for them. This capability of finding pragmatic solutions to their problems set them apart from others. They can focus their minds on what needs to be done and even spend time researching and learning a new subject in order to accomplish this. To accomplish a goal, ESFJs can be surprisingly resilient and capable.

What personality type is the happiest?

According to MBTI manual, a global sample of 15,824 individuals were informed to indicate, using a 4-point scale from “not at all happy” to “very happy”, their general level of happiness. The results of the survey show eight personality types who ranked themselves the happiest as: ESTJs, ENTJs, ESFJs, ESFPs, ENFJs, ENTPs, ESTPs, ENFPs. From this survey, it is clearly shown that Extroverts are deemed happier than their introverted counterparts.

According to a study by Larsen and Ketelaar, extraverts are more responsive to rewards, which makes them happier overall. Another study by Ryan Howell opines that, highly extroverted people are happier with their lives because they tend to hold a positive nostalgic view of the past and are less likely to have negative thoughts and regrets. Another factor that might motivate happiness of extroverts is that for a long time Western culture has favoured extroverted personalities. Individuals who act quickly, appear friendly, sociable and outgoing are often praised or seen as the norm as Introverts often feel the need to wear the extroverted persona in order to make a positive impression or fit in. This can lead to low self-esteem and increased anxiety for Introverts.

Isbael Briggs-Myers believed that Introverted Personality types were going to be less satisfied than Extraverts and Judging types. She claimed that Introverts tend to perceive external difficulties more fully than the Extroverts and Judging type. According to the MBTI manual, Introverts are in the habit of using their perceiving process in the outer world. They assume that there is more to be seen than they have seen so far, that some things may not be pleasant or favourable, and they make a point for looking for those things. Introverts interest in their inner world make them to be more aware of internal difficulties than extraverts are.

What makes ESFJ happy?

ESFJs are conscientious helpers, sensitive to the needs of others, and energetically dedicated to their responsibilities. They tend to ensure security and stability in their relationships. One of ESFJ strengths is their strong practical skills which are quite wonderful and directed to achieve the best. They are highly attuned to their emotional environment and attentive to both the feelings of others and the perceptions others have of them. They are quite interested in hearing about their friends’ relationships and activities. Another of the ESFJ Strengths is their value for loyalty and tradition, and usually make their family and friends their top priority.

ESFJs happiness is closely tied to the happiness and comfort of those around them. Their strengths, weaknesses, and actions are influenced by emotions which they are exposed to. They are valued for their genuine warm and caring natures, and their special ability to love people and bring out best in others. ESFJs derive majority of their pleasure and happiness by caring for, nurturing and pleasing the people around them. In a relationship, ESFJ personality type can be the happiest if they are allowed to take on a service role that enables them to anticipate and provides for the need of their partners.

What do ESFJ find attractive?

They are usually traditional and take their commitments very seriously. ESFJs are very centered around people’s ability to portray their emotions. They are often attracted to someone who is very physically expressive. Someone who is also good with the usage of body language will make an ESFJ to be very intrigued and attached. EFJs are also attracted to individuals who are open and very honest.

What is the most loyal personality type?

Different personality blog and sites are of different opinions about who is the most loyal personality type. Their opinion varied based on the different features of each personality type. Majority of them opine that there are four personality type who are basically the loyal types. These four personality types are the ENFPs, ISFJs, ESFJs and the INFJs.

The personality type known to be loyal in romantic relationships are the ENFPs, though they are free spirited, but they become super committed when it comes to romantic relationships. ENFPs take relationship very seriously and they can become very devoted to a particular person.

ISFJs on the other hand are known to be extremely loyal as well though they are super shy and be very defensive when they become devoted to a relationship. This is because the relationship has become extremely important to them. ESFJs are the extroverted personality of the ISFJs and they are quite loyal as well. While ESFJ are more outgoing and friendly than ISFJs, they are also known for similar devotion to the people closest to them. ESFJs can be very loyal and trustworthy. They tend to be there for people who are in their lives no matter what, best and worst, and they are willing to help. ESFJs strengths, weaknesses, and reactions are often affected by their loyalty. They create important relationship on the foundation of their loyalty whether romantic, formal, or platonic.

 This is not far-fetched because being a perfectionist, it often takes them some time to allow someone into their social space.

How do you comfort an ESFJ?

Most ENFJs report that they feel better when they can get a change of scenery, like changing high school, celebrating holidays away from known environment with known emotions, spend quality time outdoors, etc. Simply being somewhere that is fresh and interesting often help to find solution and ideas that can lead to renewed optimism. Talking to a close friend also help with the comforting. Also, getting a quiet place to go to, or a calming activity to be absorbed in can be of help. Many ESFJs report that events such as cooking, sewing, gardening, playing music can help to feel better and get comforted.

Which is the best personality type?

Each type has their strength and weaknesses, with each having areas they are very good at and where they are not so good. 

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