Want What You Can’t Have: Dream Big But Be Realistic
By Julia Thomas
Updated February 17, 2020
Reviewer Wendy Boring-Bray, DBH, LPC
Steps Towards Being More Successful;
Find ways to achieve a vision by working on committing to leadership breakthroughs. There are many ways to work towards your personal goals and this starts with your mental attitude. By developing your self-confidence, communication with others, reducing your stress, and improving your outlook.
Developing a good self-confidence is indispensable when achieving your goals. Ideally working on this measure of success comes from stretching our comfort zones. This can be achieved by reading, talking with a professional therapist or coach, and getting positive support from trainers that specialize in your field of interest.
Strengthening your communication skills is an important part of your professional and personal accomplishments. Enhancing these abilities can make a positive impression on others and build your self-worth. Learning how to create interactions that are more focused on building a "yes" while using an easy manner under pressure can create new relationships.
Communication can be focused on spending time appreciating your daily interactions and developing empathy for different perspectives. Start a discussion with understanding your perspective while allowing space for the other party to share their ideas. This is where you learn to empathize with others and their thoughts. It's important to accept partial responsibility for your actions without placing blame on either side of the discussion, and a final key element to communication is building cooperation with the other party in the conversation. The key is to build a fluid interaction that reduces defenses mechanisms. Use your communication to inspire others, working towards being more flexible, open, and approachable.
Keep your stress level low by restructuring your thoughts with your positive attributes and achievements, even the smallest one's matter. Reducing stress will help you focus on more of an optimistic approach to dreaming big. Improve your outlook by accepting constructive feedback; this helps you become more open to new ideas and is a key indicator of success. Find goals that are small and measurable keep them clear, specific, and try to prevent procrastination.
In self-actualization, it is important to use empathy as a way to understand another person's perspective on a deeper level. Try to take special care to find ways to understand a person's inner feelings and beliefs by holdings these ideas as if they are your own. People have a tendency to grow and flourish in the right conditions, especially when they are groomed in positive affirmations.
Install new habits of thinking by reducing the "shoulds." This diminishes inflexible rules about how you or another person should behave. Create more positive energy in your life by eliminating your judgments or faults in others, instead look for learning opportunities in your interactions. When we limit our thinking it is easy to focus on unacceptable traits, strong opinions, and other faults. Using language such as I should be able to know everything or understand it all can create barriers in communication with others and be difficult on your self-worth. Find ways to be polite to yourself and others.
Finding worth in yourself and your own actions without approval from others is incredibly liberating, it allows us to tap into our preferences and dreams. Find ways to imagine, a barrier that is getting in the way of what you want, hold this image, use this as a target to imagine your desired behavior. Feel confident in your ability to visualize each step in your plan for a better you.