What It Means To Struggle With Psychological Trauma And What You Can Do About It

By Darby Faubion|Updated May 2, 2022
CheckedMedically Reviewed By Kelly L. Burns, MA, LPC, ATR-P

Psychological trauma can happen in some of the most extreme situations. While everyone lives through an unpleasant experience now and then, only some people are unfortunate enough to experience true emotional trauma. To understand trauma, you need to not only look at the definition of it but also delve into the deeper meaning of how psychological trauma alters a life. Then, you can get help for yourself, or a loved one you know has faced a traumatic experience.

In the United States, 61 percent of men and 51 percent of women report being exposed to at least one traumatic event in their lifetime. If trauma goes unaddressed, it may lead to mental illness and failing physical health. However, among those who seek help for psychological trauma, approximately 72 percent learn to cope with the traumatic event(s) and live a life free of long-term negative effects.

What Is Psychological Trauma?

We Understand That Psychological Trauma Can Have A Big Impact On Your Life

When it comes to psychological trauma, it seems everyone is an amateur psychologist. People who don't know what trauma is may point at common experiences and proclaim they have scarred someone for life, or have been scarred by someone. They very well might have, but trauma is not a word that should be used lightly or as a blanket term for something unpleasant that happened. However, psychological/emotional trauma has a very precise definition. What is it that separates psychological trauma from the merely unpleasant?

Types Of Events And Situations That May Cause Emotional Trauma

Traumatic events are defined as events that are powerfully upsetting. These events produce effects that intrude upon someone's daily life, creating a major threat to a person's psychological and/or physical wellbeing. A traumatic event may be the result of another person's actions, or it could be caused by an accident. Either way, the effects are very similar.

Some examples of traumatic events include:

  • Natural disasters, such as fires, earthquakes, tornadoes, or hurricanes
  • Physical or sexual assault
  • Exposure to acts of war and/or terrorism
  • Involvement in a car accident or workplace accident/event
  • Domestic violence
  • The unexpected death of a loved one, especially if it's related to an accident

How Do I Know If I Have Experienced Trauma?

Many people experience strong physical or emotional reactions following a traumatic event. In many cases, the feeling of uneasiness will diminish over time once the threat has been eliminated. However, depending on the severity of the event, some symptoms of psychological trauma may get worse or last for longer periods of time.

Some of the most common symptoms associated with psychological trauma include:

  • Nightmares
  • Confusion
  • Mood swings
  • Intrusive thoughts about the event
  • Flashbacks of the event
  • Social isolation
  • Easily startled
  • Appearing/feeling anxious
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Guilt

Unfortunately, the effects of psychological trauma can linger for years, especially without intervention. In fact, trauma can affect every aspect of life. Some of the most common effects of untreated trauma include:

  • Substance abuse
  • Social withdrawal
  • Hostility
  • Depression
  • Compulsive behavior
  • Sexual promiscuity

Untreated psychological trauma may eventually lead to mental illness, including an anxiety disorder, depression, or phobias. That's why it's extremely important to seek treatment if you've experienced trauma.

Recovering From Psychological Trauma

Not everyone who experiences a traumatic event is scarred. However, recovery does require dealing with the painful emotions by taking time to process them. If the person who has been traumatized does not deal with the feelings of distress, they tend to replay the event over and over again in their mind, which can lead to long-term stress.

There are four essential steps to addressing and overcoming psychological trauma. Learning these steps can give you a sense of control over the situation.

Stage One: Circuit Breaking

Much like an electrical system, the human nervous system can become overstimulated. This is often what happens when a traumatic event takes place. As a natural response, the body tends to shut down or function only at a basic level. Some people feel like they're in shock or numb at this stage, and others report feeling emotionally and spiritually disconnected.

Stage Two: Return Of Feelings

Once the initial shock wears off, normal feelings and emotions begin to return. During this time, it may seem like the affected person constantly talks about the event. Some may write in journals or even draw to process the situation. This is a way of releasing the feelings of being overwhelmed, so they can begin to heal.

Stage Three: Constructive Action

Taking action seems to give individuals a sense of control, which is important after experiencing a traumatic event. The sense of powerlessness that many experience after trauma can feel crippling. For some, even the simplest act, such as sending cards to people, visiting hospitals, or cooking a meal for someone, can help them return to normal. Anything that gives one a sense of purpose can promote healing from a psychological trauma.

Stage Four: Reintegration

When someone experiences psychological trauma, one of the best ways to experience healing and to become stronger is to become involved with others. Being willing to talk to others who may be experiencing a similar situation is one way to release the frustration and pain of a traumatic event. During this stage of healing, many people express a renewed commitment to goals and a deeper connection to others.

When You Need Help For Emotional Trauma

Many people who experience psychological trauma are afraid to reach out for help. However, it can be difficult to manage the symptoms of trauma without professional intervention. If you've experienced psychological trauma, you're not alone, and help is available. Experienced counselors and therapists can provide a safe space where you can talk about traumatic events. They can also teach you coping mechanisms to help you deal with the trauma, so that long-term negative effects will be reduced or eliminated.

We Understand That Psychological Trauma Can Have A Big Impact On Your Life

373 studies exploring the efficacy of online therapy for a range of conditions, such as anxiety, depression, trauma and PTSD, mood disorders, phobias, and many others, found internet-based cognitive behavioral therapy (ICBT) to be just as effective as in-person therapy. These studies also found that internet-based therapy can be more beneficial to some, as it helps remove some of the barriers in place with traditional therapy, such as negative stigma associated with going to therapy, cost effectiveness, convenience and ability to attend sessions, and social anxieties.

Many people who have experienced trauma find it difficult to open up to a counselor face-to-face. This is where online counseling comes in. BetterHelp offers completely anonymous online counseling with a licensed professional, so you can meet with someone from the comfort of your own home or anywhere you have an internet connection. Research shows that online therapy can play a powerful role in recovering from trauma, and tends to be cheaper than traditional therapy, too.

BetterHelp's mission is to provide help to anyone who is struggling with life events when and where you need it. Their network of licensed counselors offers support for hundreds of issues, including trauma. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors from people experiencing similar issues.

Counselor Reviews

"Billie is WONDERFUL!!!!!! She's kind, responsive, caring, validating - everything I could ever hope for in a therapist. I came from a very abusive, traumatic childhood that still influences who I am, and Billie is helping me undo that damage. She answers me every day, responds to everything I write to her, and always answers my questions. When I get stuck, she nudges me forward with gentle suggestions that I can use or not. She's respectful and gentle ALWAYS! I feel like I'm making so much progress with her, and I feel so, so, SO lucky to have her!"

"When I first started therapy with Suzanne, I was dealing with intense anxiety that dominated all my waking hours, as well as insomnia that kept me up to avg ~3am most nights for over half a year. I was honestly skeptical of therapy since I have worked with 6 different therapists in the past (not through BetterHelp), and didn't feel it really worked for me. But Suzanne really changed my idea of therapy for the better. Since working with her, my mental health has improved immensely and I've experienced a ton healing in our time together. Her empathic and compassionate listening, relevant advice and knowledge, and warm presence really put me at ease and helped me move through probably the biggest transition of my life, as well as a lot of past trauma. I feel eons lighter and much more at peace with myself, my life, and my relationships, and I can attribute a lot of that to working with Suzanne - the level of insight and practical homework that came out of every session really helped me feel like I was making progress in my healing. Suzanne, thank you so much for all the hard work that you do. It is an amazing skill to care and counsel. Thank you for changing my life! :)"


Psychological trauma is real. It can be caused by any number of factors, and individuals respond to it differently. If you've experienced psychological trauma, you may feel like you're stuck, but you can regain your emotional wellbeing. Take the first step today.


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