How can I overcome OCD and the thoughts?

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and anxiety have often been confused, but there is a big difference between the two. Obsessive-compulsive disorder is characterized by obsessions and/or compulsions (a huge impulse or push from within). These could be anything from checking door locks over and over to driving by an X's house. Everyone does some of these behaviors, but stop before they become a problem. If these behaviors are problematic enough and last over an hour a day, they may be considered for diagnosis.

Anxiety is "a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome" (Oxford Languages). If we didn't have anxiety we might forget our keys altogether. We might not pay attention at night when we should be safe and aware of our surroundings. We might not make a lot of sound in the woods where bears are and stumble into a crabby animal. So anxiety can be a good thing. Your anxiety has just taken the driver's seat. It can be for many reasons, 2020 may play a big role. We just have to use our voice of reason to talk anxiety out of driving when she's drunk.

To overcome either feeling it starts with you doing self-care. I'll explain a little more in-depth:

Often we have a negative thought which will trigger us like girls often get "I'm ugly, I'm not good enough." These negative thoughts are often tied to childhood memories. So if a boy rejects the girl she may be triggered and will react with a fight, flight or freeze response.

Doing self-care several times a day builds muscle memory like soldiers in training are building muscle memory for combat. So when fight, flight or freeze are triggered you can use self-care to stop it. Like soldiers can fight the enemy instead of freezing and getting a response. We need to find things that you will like to do so the self-care, or coping skills, isn't a chore and you won't quit after a few weeks. For regulating our emotions, self-care skills are the things like: go get coffee, talk to friends and family, watch funny videos, play games, play with the dog, walk the cat, sing to music, fishing or knitting.

To fix it you have to work through these thoughts. It's an exposure and acceptance therapy. There are many variations of exposure and acceptance therapies. I offer EMDR therapy, which speeds up the process of exposure therapy by using bilateral stimulation (sound or tapping on both sides of your body) to help both sides of the brain fully link together.