How do i stay consistent?

Hello Ray,

Thank you for asking your question as I believe many people struggle with the same thing.  I think first we need to examine what your vulnerability factors are.  These are things such as eating, sleeping and exercise.  If these things are well taken care of, the mind will respond differently to stressors and periods of stress will more than likely be short lived.  Taking a look at last week and your vulnerability factors, where do you think they were at?  Did you sleep well last week?  How about your appetite and food choices?  Last but not by any means least is exercise.  Were you more active last week?  Ask yourself the same questions about this week and compare the two weeks in terms of your vulnerability factors. 

We also need to look at what you are telling yourself?  What are your own thoughts about yourself?  What are the stories that you tell yourself and how is it different from week to week.  Typically there are some thoughts that often bring about emotions and I am curious to know what is that running dialogue you have in your head?  

I also wonder how long you have felt this way?  Have you seen a mental health professional?  

I have worked with many people who struggle in this way and some days are definitely better than others.  What would be helpful in this situation is to begin the practice of self compassion and acceptance.  In order for something to change, we first need to accept that it is there without pushing it away.  Give it a little attention and it will create less drama! 

I would suggest you begin in a mindfulness practice.  Mindfulness means simply being present with this moment without holding on.  Take a few minutes throughout your day.  So in order to get yourself out of this habitually, you will need to do something different.  I would suggest making little small changes.  If you are struggling to get out of bed, then don't.  But do some other things to take care of your mind, get a journal, write down three things you are grateful for.  Look up on youtube guided meditations for motivation and do this while in bed.  Don't beat yourself up about being in bed just do whatever you can, push through just a little each time until new habits are formed.  

I hope this helps.