How to get over someone that’s not good for you

I had a friend and ever since she stopped talking to me I’ve been so depressed some days I can’t eat some days I don’t shower I’m having negative thoughts
Asked by Boo
Answered
10/07/2022

Your loss of a friend is a serious trial for you, and has precipitated (caused) a deep and severe reaction of depression, so much so that you have lost your appetite and your energy for self-care. 

You didn't mention whether or not there are others in your life who can be supportive -- family, other friends, and so on. This is a good time to let others who can help you through this know that you would welcome their support.

Counseling can certainly help. Once you are stable and safe, on-going counseling is certainly a good, effective way to heal from your sense of loss, and to find your way back to healthy, strong relationships. That can take time, but it would be worth it.

Getting over the loss of a friend is always a long process. That's why people need help to do it. Part of that work might be learning to understand more about your idea that this friend was "not good for you," as you put it. Sometimes it's harder to leave a bad or harmful relationship in the past. It's not unusual, even though it seems like it should be easier. That's another reason that having a counselor to talk it over with can help.

You took an important step in posting your question, and asking for help. I feel very hopeful that you can see your way through all of this, with your own strength and courage and with the help of others.