My birthday is coming up this Tuesday and I’ve been really depressed. How can I make myself feel ok?

I'll start with HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!!

It sounds like you have a lot going on and unfortunately none of it will be solved or be better by Tuesday. But there are many things that you can do to start feeling better.

• First: celebrate your birthday - even if you only do so with a small cupcake and candle from your local grocery store. Celebrate in a public place - at the park or coffee shop. Watch how people are excited to see you celebrate and will offer to celebrate with you!
• Second: make the decision to be happy - despite your circumstances. Really count your blessings and see (and know) that things could be worse.
• Third: get out of bed! Put yourself on a schedule. Start getting some outdoor exercise and make plans for yourself. You can't make friends (or money) laying in bed.
• Fourth: figure out what truly makes you happy and then go get it. Happiness is something that you can give yourself, it is not dependent on anyone else or money. 

I think starting with these things may change your outlook and make your day a little brighter. Remember that we take things one day at a time or even by the hour if needed. Nothing comes to us quickly and it will all take time. Accept the time that it takes and do not rush the process. 

Many times we tend to forget how much control we really have over our own lives. Recognize your power and take control again. You have the ability to create the life you want. We cannot change the past but you have ultimate control on what happens next. Do not dwell on the past, instead reflect on what you would like to do differently in the future than what you did in the past.

Start by being your own emotional support and then add to your tribe (or team) of those who love and care for you and want to see you succeed. 

I challenge you to think about what you want out of life and what you need to do to get the life you want. And then start the work to get that life!

Blessings to you!