Help with depression and emotional social anxiety

Hello Josh and thank you for sharing these concerns. It sounds like you are dealing with several issues at once such as: trauma, moving away, depression, and anxiety. Major life changes such as these can affect your overall mental wellness and your ability to function in a healthy way. Some mental health symptoms may be difficult to manage without proper support, self-help, or treatment.

You mentioned experiencing depression in your list of concerns. One thing that can help manage your depression can be to understand your triggers for the depression and find ways to cope in a healthy way. A few ways to cope in a healthy way with your depression can be exercise, picking up a hobby, self-care such as cleaning and cooking, or reaching out to an old friend. It is also important that you are aware of unhealthy coping skills that may add to the depression such as: drugs/alcohol, isolating, negative thoughts and self-talk, or giving up on enjoyable activities. Negative thoughts tend to make you question your abilities but also interfere with your self-esteem and motivation. As you experience negative thoughts, you may be able to challenge them by questioning the authenticity, your evidence contrary to the belief, or even asking yourself what you think a friend may think about the thought. 

Regarding anxiety, is it helpful to understand what it is and how it affects your overall functioning. Anxiety can present in many ways such as: excessive worry, nervousness, rapid heartbeats, fear, and poor concentration. It may also be helpful to understand the triggers for anxious thoughts and behaviors. Some examples of triggers may be public speaking, starting a new task, or even performing. From there, you can use coping techniques such as deep breathing, exercise, talking with positive people, or engaging in self-care. 

Regarding moving away from friends, you can also look to building your own social support in your new town. You may be able to do this by using social media to join groups or finding activities of interest. Other ways may be to connect with school or work colleagues to engage in social activities. 

Lastly, healing from hurt may take time and usually happens when you learn to identify your stressors and manage your symptoms. It is normal to grieve the loss of the relationship as you manage negative feelings and behaviors associated with it. When you can identify and label your trauma, you can focus on moving forward to manage it.