How do I continue to use the tools I've learned through a lifetime of therapy?

Keep a list of tools/coping plan and continue to add to it over time. Practice those tools on a regular basis, maybe as a part of a self-care routine. For example, if one of your tools is positive self-talk practice sprinkling in encouragement/ affirmations to yourself.

What are some of the things you think you could work into a part of your typical daily/ weekly routine? Schedule time for a self-care routine, if you don't already have this worked out. By practicing things that help or soothe us on a regular basis, we can prevent our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors from becoming overwhelming or turning into a crisis. As you grow (mentally/ emotionally/ spiritually), your tools will need to grow or adjust as well.

As for your loved ones, it sounds more like they admire your willingness to seek help and apply the things you have learned based on their support, encouragement, and acknowledging that therapy has helped you.  I would imagine it could be both the fear of being vulnerable enough to let a stranger see them or hear their story and the stigma of mental health/ therapy that keeps them from seeking help. I would imagine your Hispanic culture plays a role in their decisions to refuse help. This does not make you the weak link. I think it is braver and more powerful/ meaningful that you have been in therapy on and off and continue to use the tools you were taught, despite cultural views, stigma, and the fear of being vulnerable. And hey, maybe you can teach your loved ones a thing or two that helps you, but pose it as a challenge or game. Perhaps, one day some loved ones might even see the value of participating in therapy for themselves.

I hope my response has helped validate some of those thoughts and feelings you are having. It would be my privilege to continue working with you to identify tools to add to your list, and to process/navigate your loved ones' responses regarding therapy. I can understand how the topic of therapy might be difficult to discuss with your family or trigger unpleasant feelings. Please don't hesitate to reach out with more questions or comments.