How do you handle parents with mental health issues?

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. 

Because this is a challenging situation, I would empower you to overcome this obstacle by working as a team with you. We would create a professional treatment plan unique to you. 

You cannot control your mom or dad, but you can control your own behavior and choices. One option is to ask your mom and dad to seek professional help, and agree to get some yourself. Have some options available in case they do show interest...ie-detox and rehab for dad, and counseling for everyone.  If they do not agree, you can try setting boundaries. Therapists on the BetterHelp platform have constructive, inspiring worksheets on boundaries that they can share with you to strengthen these skills. 

Finally, you can take great care of yourself! Make sure you remind yourself this is not your fault, and tell yourself your best qualities! Empower yourself with CBT therapy (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and write down every day all that you are grateful for. In your treatment plan, you may also choose to include regular exercise. (Decide what type is your favorite and what days/times are amenable for you). The more specific you are, the more likely you are to follow through!  Also, eat healthy meals and get as much quality sleep as you can. You and your therapist can plan this out as well. 

Another idea is to reach out to family members and friends who ARE supportive. You can make a list with your therapist who these would be. With technology today, this is easier! You can use Skype, Facetime, etc. This can comfort you as well as give you support. 

If you have a higher power, you can attend your place of worship or listen to sermons/religious leaders of your choice on you tube. This can bring you comfort and peace. 

You can do DBT with hour therapist (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and learn to meditate regularly. Also, engage in self care further by seeking massage, manicures, time with hobbies, etc. 

All the above can be put on your treatment plan and more! 

Please do not lose hope. A good therapist will be available to you and discuss even more options to help that are right for you!  Most importantly, do not lose hope. Therapy is like planting a seed, and when one member of the family starts to get empowered and embrace their health, so do the other members of the family. Even if they are not yet receiving the counseling! I wish you all the best.

Sincerely,

Jennifer Spinner LCSW