Can friendship turn into love?

Asked by Anonymous
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05/12/2021

Most relationships encompass some form of love within the dynamics.  The extent and depth of what that love is between the individuals involved can vary.  This may be important when the relationship evolves, specifically if the love develops romantic or platonic.  You can develop feelings of love for someone in a platonic way, meaning there is not necessarily a physical attraction but a love for the person as a whole.  When the love develops from a romantic perspective, this typically indicates some form of physical attraction associated with the love you have for this person. 

Friendships turn into platonic love when the bond/connection between the individuals becomes stronger.  This type of connection is typically developed through quality time spent together; within that quality time, you learn more about each other and come to appreciate various aspects of one another.  At some point, the appreciation develops into admiration, which contributes to that feeling of love for one another.  Some people refer to this type of love as wholesome or non-romantic. 

A friendship that turns into romantic love can be a bit different; usually, there was some form of physical attraction at the beginning of the friendship (although this is not necessarily always the case).  Over time the individuals involved will build a strong bond for one another, typically through quality time.  At some point, the connection will develop into feelings of admiration into love; but with a desire to be physically intimate with one another.  Again, this is not always the case as some people develop romantic feelings for someone but perhaps do not engage in sexual activities.  But traditionally, speaking, there is some form of physical attraction that indicates some form of romantic love.

Something to also consider when it comes to friendships turning into love, in particular with romantic love, is whether or not the feelings are being reciprocated.  One person will develop a sense of romantic love in some instances, but the other person may not necessarily have the same feelings.  This is where communication of feelings is important, to establish a sense of boundaries within that friendship.