Is it possible to get therapy 13 years on from my mums passing and would it help?

Hello Sammy and thank you for asking a question here in BetterHelp. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother 13 years ago. Being 10 years old is a terrible time to lose a parent, when I talk with people about their parents I usually explain that our parents are our foundation, it's damaging and debilitating with that foundation crumbles when you're still developing as a human being. It sounds like that's exactly what happened to you. I have a few suggestions I think could really help but first I want to talk about therapy. 

Your initial question was: is it possible to get therapy 13 years after your mom had passed away, and the answer to that is a definite yes. You going through that as a child was very traumatic, I talk with people who have gone through traumatic situations when they are children and it's just now affecting them 10, 20 and even 30 years after the traumatic event. This is why I would strongly recommend talking to a therapist. It's very easy to get linked with a therapist here on BetterHelp, all you have to do is click on the get started button on the homepage. After this you will be prompted to fill out several questions about yourself which only takes about 5 to 10 minutes. You will then automatically be linked with a therapist, if you don't like your therapist you are more than welcome to choose another one on your own or you can ask to be linked to another one. I hope you consider getting linked with somebody soon.  

Trauma has a way of going dormant, then rearing up later in our lives through emotional outbursts or out of control behavior. This is something I see constantly as a therapist, somebody went through a traumatic experience when they were young and never processed it, and it damages the way they connect with other people or themselves when they are in their 40s or 50s. You reaching out and asking about meeting with somebody to discuss what happened 13 years ago is fantastic, this means you have some insight and some understanding as to how your mother passing away damaged you. 

The ultimate goal when processing trauma is being able to accept what happened, find the silver lining and using what happened to you in the past to improve you for the future. I know that's a really difficult thing to see right now, how in the world could you find a silver lining in your mother passing away when you were so young, it's completely fair to ask that question and have difficulty understanding it right now. That's why I explain this as the end goal. When working with a therapist, you will process the emotions you dealt with when you were young, recognize how it affected your development as a child, and how you want to move forward with it now. I really want to push you to understand that there is hope through this, millions of people have gone through similar situations and have come out on top, and you will too.

I hope you were able to find something in here that helps and I wish you the best of luck!