Post break up trauma.

Hello, I am not sure why you began your question to someone named Dr. Vivia Hill-Silcott, as I surely am not she. BetterHelp forwarded your question to me, so I will share my response perspective. First, I wish to applaud your courage for reaching out during your vulnerable state to be open in reaching out for support. This is a safe space to talk about hard things. When we lose someone we care for, whether from a relationship breakup, or from other loss causes, it hurts, always. This is why we have a heart and tear ducts to feel our emotions of a normal grief reaction, for us to move through those stages of grief, first the denial, then the anger, then the sadness and a bit of depression, then eventually the acceptance, the peace place that our heart and mind reaches once we allow those deeper raw feelings to surface, express, and release. The quickest way to prevent depression from happening when we have had a breakup is to feel our grief, to allow it to move through our body, our mind, our heart, to cry those tears, to express the anger, fears, whatever and to ride the grief just like a big wave surfer rides a wave, until finally that wave breaks, and hits the beach, recedes and only the peaceful waters remain. Our grief is cleansing, clearing, freeing. The anxiety is just fear, which sounds as if it has settled in your chest. As you work through and process your grief, your anxiety will reduce, and lessen, over time, as your heart heals. I encourage you to remember back to a time when you successfully worked through a loss, any kid of loss, but one that hurt. It may have been a death of your favorite pet, or the death of someone close to you, perhaps a family member or a friend, or it may have been the loss we feel when we are forced to move, or your parents may have split up by divorce and you had to grieve the loss that comes with change. All of these and more life brings sometimes and loss is part of life, is it not? As the song says, the first cut is the deepest and then over time, as we allow our hearts to grieve, life gets a bit easier and we feel a bit better, step by step, day by day, hour by hour. So I encourage you to trust your grief process and to allow your heart to feel and to heal. You will come out on the other side, in time. Take good care of your healing heart.