What to do when grief turns to depression?

Grief and depression share some symptoms but are distinct from one another. It’s important to determine whether or not a person is experiencing grief or depression because a depression diagnosis and treatment can be lifesaving, and grief after a loss can be a healing experience. While grief and depression are distinct, they can coexist, and sometimes grief can trigger a depressive episode.

Grief is often caused by loss of some kind. This can be the loss of a loved one, divorce, or even the loss of a job. Depression and depressive episodes can be triggered by major events like a loss with grief or other things.

The symptoms that grief shares with depression include:

• Sadness
• Difficulty sleeping
• Changes in appetite
• Weight loss

The major difference between grief and depression is that grief tends to lessen over time and often is reported as coming in “waves” that are triggered by reminders of the loss you’ve experienced. A person may feel relatively well and then become hit with a wave of grief. Depression tends to be more constant or persistent. It’s important to note that there is no “right” way to grieve, and the process may not follow a linear set of stages. Grief is unique to each person.

Treatment isn’t always needed or recommended for grief unless it becomes complex and hampers the ability to function from day to day in normal activities. When grief is so severe that it interferes with life or sleep problems result from it, talking with your doctor about medication to help may be a good idea. The doctor can also screen you for depression and may prescribe antidepressants if necessary. Working with a grief counselor or therapist who specializes in grief can be very helpful as well.

Treatment for depression often involves medication, therapy, or a combination of both. If you’re concerned about determining which is affecting you at present, talk with your doctor or a licensed mental health professional for an evaluation of your symptoms and circumstances.

If you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 for support, or visit your local emergency room.