How to love myself and love my soul? How to take care of my soul? Why doesn't nothing interests me?

Can't control my anger. Feels like nothing to do. Nothing interests me. I can't even concentrate on study. Feel like crying all time. I feel no energy. Feel numb.
Asked by Lily Bloom
Answered
12/05/2021

I can understand how you must be feeling. Life can be very stressful and overwhelming at times. It is always important to try to love yourself, even when you are feeling down. I truly believe that everyone struggles with loving and taking care of themselves at times. Here are some useful tips to always keep in mind when you are feeling negatively:

1.) Get to know yourself better. Invest time in understanding what makes you tick. What do you like to do? What do you believe in? What are your values and aspirations? Etc.

2.)Make sure to set boundaries for yourself! Say "no" when you need to. Be your own advocate and you will feel empowered.

3.)Try not to compare yourself to other people. Others are not better or worse than you or anybody else. Everyone is just different, in their own unique way. 

4.)Give yourself a treat. Even if you feel like you haven't "earned it," do something nice for yourself "just because." 

5.)Do try to let yourself off the hook for any mistakes you may have made or imperfections you think you have. We are all human, and everyone makes mistakes. Your value does not diminish because of this. Making mistakes is what makes us all grow as individuals. Forgive yourself.

6.)This may sometimes be hard, but try to surround yourself with people that treat you with kindness and respect. Being around people that care for you and genuinely want to see you succeed can automatically help boost your mood.

7.)Allow yourself some alone time to reflect. It's okay to feel any feelings that you have. Write them down. Accept that there will be bad days and that better days are ahead. Listen to some of your favorite music or engage in a new hobby.

8.)This may sound strange, but try to write yourself a love letter! Write down all the times that you admire about yourself. Be kind and truly reflect before writing it down. When you are done, you can look to it whenever you are feeling down. Hopefully, it can put a smile on your face. 

I hope that some of these suggestions helped. If you ever need to talk, I am here. Wishing you the best.

(LCSW, MSW)