What can I do to regain my drive and ambition after losing them?

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about what you are going through right now.

I know it must be tough to feel that way. I work with many clients who have dealt or are dealing with very similar symptoms. I know how hard it can be to even get up and do the things you have to do to meet your needs when you feel this way. During these times, it is important to remind yourself of what is important to you and what your goals are. When you have a goal it can give you motivation to get out of bed every day. Try to find a goal, even if it's as simple as brushing your teeth daily or getting out of the house twice a week.

It's also really important that you lean on your support group during this time. Share with them about how you feel. Sometimes just venting can go a long way towards healing.

Therapy might help you to get to the bottom of why you are feeling this way. With therapy you can find the root of the problem and learn coping skills to deal with your triggers. In therapy, you can learn to identify your symptoms, identify your triggers, and change negative patterns of thinking. It can be really difficult for clients to think clearly when they are experiencing a low mood, so therapy can help a client to identify why they are having these patterns of thinking and how to change those patterns. Once you learn to challenge negative thinking and look at life from a positive perspective, it will greatly reduce the negative symptoms you are experiencing.

I think another important thing to remember is that alcohol is a depressant. I know you said you are drinking, and I understand you most likely are using it as an unhealthy coping mechanism. But, when you drink, even though it may provide relief in the moment, it is most likely going to cause you to feel more depressed afterwards. That's why it's so important to try and stay away from substance use, especially when you are already feeling low. 

I hope this information was helpful and I hope you consider getting into therapy. It can be very beneficial. Good luck!