How can i fix my relationship with my siblings?

Hi Britt.  Thank you for taking that first step to reach out for support.  I know this is not an easy step to take.  I commend you for trying to make things work.  I understand you are having difficulty managing your relationships with your siblings.  

Navigating familial relationships can be challenging for many reasons.  We do not choose our family. Yet we may be placed in situations where we have to find ways to get along, mesh our different personalities and try to act like everything is ok. This is not simple and can be stressful. Poor interpersonal relationships and worrying about how to repair the hurt can lead to depression and anxiety. 

Conflict can arise at any time. There will be times you will be expected to meet and get along with your siblings.  Especially during the holidays and important family events.  Jealousy and feelings of inadequacy can contribute and cause strained relationships.  

Building healthy relationships takes time and understanding.  Talk to each other and discuss what you want to work on and how you will go about resolving issues you have with each other.   Try not to judge each other or take things personally.  Be open to a different perspective.  Address conflict rather than avoid it.  Express how you are feeling. Do not suppress your thoughts. Utilize "I" statements and active listening skills.  

Create a support system for yourself compromised with friends, people you feel safe with and comfortable turning to in times of need.  It's important to have a safe space where you can feel heard and understood. 

Work with a licensed, trained mental health professional to develop positive coping skills.  You will learn to self reflect, express your feelings, identify and reframe irrational and negative thoughts, communicate effectively, create healthy boundaries, set goals, build confidence, and advocate for yourself. You will be in a safe space where you can role play and practice the skills you learn. 

Keep reaching out for support. Friends, family, and therapy can help you.  You are not alone.  Many people struggle with forming and maintaining healthy familial relationships. It is possible to mend and heal from conflicts with siblings.  Wishing you all the best on your path to wellness. Take care.