How can I solve my trust issue problem and anger and my other emotions?

Thank you for reaching out. 

This sounds as though it feels isolating and as though it can make you quite vulnerable.  The Priory Group defines burnout “as a state of severe emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion, which is often defined by ‘excessive and prolonged periods of stress’. The condition causes individuals to experience enormous amounts of distress when attempting to meet the constant demands of life.”  The difference between stress and burnout is that burnout is more of a state of mental or emotional tiredness which occurs as a response to expose to stress continuously.

The signs or symptoms of burnout are, but not limited to:

• ·         Trouble sleeping, insomnia or feel tired/fatigue all the time
• ·         Forgetfulness, racing thoughts or a lack of/difficulty concentrating
• ·         Susceptible to illness
• ·         Anger, irritability or frustration
• ·         Anxiety, depression, feeling constantly worried, anxious or scared
• ·         Physical symptoms; such as anxiety symptoms
• ·         Isolation, including avoiding things or people
• ·         Feeling overwhelmed or a lack of self-confidence
• ·         Eating more or less than usual, also drinking or smoking more than usual

When considering these symptoms/signs of a burnout, these seem to correlate to some of the feelings and behaviours you have described.

Talking to your local GP can help you manage the symptoms and get support.  Some things that can help recovering from burnout are:

• ·         Talking therapies, support groups or mental health care
• ·         Talking and being open & honest with friends, family, etc.
• ·         Allowing yourself time to rest and practicing more self-care
• ·         Allowing yourself some positivity and things are okay to be ‘good enough’
• ·         Learning to say ‘NO’ and implementing boundaries.
• ·         Planning ahead, splitting up workload/tasks to smaller ones
• ·         Challenging negative thoughts, meditation, mindfulness
• ·         Change in diet, habits or being more active
• ·         Change in work habits/conditions, daily schedule/activities
• ·         Medication or holistic therapies.

I am aware that this list could be overwhelming and may come across like a monumental task, but pick one thing that is small, but would have the biggest pay-off.  For example, may try to implement one thing that is self-care; walks, having a bath, reading, shopping, gym etc. Allow yourself the time and permission to dedicate time to do this. 

Burnout is only developed/sustained when there is a belief that things will not get better.  Burnout says that nothing you do matters, because you don’t have control or influence over the outcomes.  However, the alternative belief, that the current situation is temporary and things inevitably will get better, can heal you from being infected by burnout.  The belief & trust that things will get better means whatever negative or self-betrayal that arises, is only brief and temporary, and you have the power and control to work and have self-belief to turn this around.

I’m hearing that your walls may be up and you have self-preservation defence mechanisms in place. 

I’m aware I have shared a lot of directions for support, but trust yourself and your gut in the direction you choose.