How do I deal with these emotions?

Hello America! Thank you so much for reaching out and entrusting BetterHelp with your question regarding extreme emotions, feeling worthless, and memory concerns.

I will address the first part of your question first: Having someone leave you is hard. I do not know the details of your situation, but I will tell you that it is natural to go through a lot of painful emotions when someone walks out of our lives regardless of the details. You mentioned feeling worthless. Some other common emotions might be loneliness, sadness, or even irritability. 

It can definitely take some time to heal, but there are steps you can intentionally take to help you get through this difficult time. I think the important thing is that you take care of yourself during this time.

1. Be conscious of your thoughts and set "thought boundaries."

2. Try to prioritize creating moments of stillness for yourself. Mindfulness meditation can help teach you to focus on the present moment. Studies tell us that meditation can help us worry and ruminate less.

3. Get some exercise! Physical activity a few times a week can help lessen symptoms of depression in some people.

4. Try not to isolate yourself too much. It may be difficult, but it is important to still make an effort to connect with other people in your life.

5. Do not be afraid to talk to someone about how you are doing and how you are feeling. Don't keep your thoughts and feelings all bottled up inside. Talk to a parent, a trusted friend, or a therapist.

Now, let us take a look at the second part of your questions regarding not remembering certain situations when things get to be "too much." When we experience difficult times, because it can be so distressing, it is common for negative thoughts and feelings to develop and/or worsen. This can look like a number of things. This can look like feelings of isolation or disconnection and loss of memory related to the specific situation. Using grounding techniques can really help control intense emotional experiences and regain mental focus. Grounding techniques work by focusing your attention on the present moment and bringing attention back to reality.

Using the 5-4-3-2-1 technique, you will purposefully take in the details of your surroundings using each of your senses. Ask yourself the following questions:

1. What are 5 things you can see? 

2. What are 4 things you can feel?

3. What are 3 things you can hear?

4. What are 2 things you can smell?

5. What is 1 thing you can taste?