Is it possible to use therapy to rewire our brain and thought process to the point people will notice

Hi there! Thank you for reaching out for support through BetterHelp. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for support, and you should be proud of yourself! I want to preface this by saying that I am answering this question based on the information you have provided. If we were meeting for a session, I would want to ask clarifying questions to gather more information. However, since I am only given the above information, I apologize if I have misunderstood anything!

This is an interesting question that you are asking - therapy can most certainly help someone process through different issues and work toward changing their own life. There is in fact a concept known as "neuroplasticity" - "Psychology Today" defines neuroplasticity as "the brain's capacity to continue growing and evolving in response to life's experiences ... the ability for the brain to adapt or change over time, by creating new neurons and building new networks." (From www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/neuroplasticity). This concept speaks about the way that humans are able to change thought processes and behaviors. A therapist can use this information to help someone work on changing behaviors and lifestyles - whether other people notice these changes depend on the situation and person. However, you can certainly use therapy to change thought patterns and behaviors over time. It may take a few sessions, it may take a few months, or it may even take a few years - but the bottom line is that you are more likely to see results if you are putting in the effort!

One therapy modality that focuses on changing thought patterns is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT. Therapists often use CBT to help clients identify and change certain thought patterns, and subsequently, behaviors. According to "Psychology Today", CBT "focuses on modifying dysfunctional emotions, behaviors, and thoughts by interrogating and uprooting negative or irrational beliefs" (From www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/cognitive-behavioral-therapy). This type of therapy is meant to help someone understand how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are related. CBT can be very effective in changing thought patterns and interrupting negative spirals. If you are able to change negative thought patterns, you may also notice a difference in your feelings, and then your behaviors (According to CBT).

Another therapy modality that can be effective in helping someone change thoughts and behaviors is called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, or DBT. DBT can be used in a variety of settings and to treat many different disorders. According to "Psychology Today", Dialectical Behavioral Therapy "acknowledges the need for change in a context of acceptance of situations and recognizes the constant flux of feelings - many of them contradictory- without having to get caught up in them" (From www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/dialectical-behavior-therapy). This type of therapy can help someone change how they view things and also help with acceptance. DBT can really challenge someone to get to the root of what thoughts and behaviors they need to change.

These are just two helpful therapy modalities that can help someone change how they live their life - I would recommend looking into starting therapy to gain more insight into your own thought and behavioral patterns and work on your goals. Therapy is a very personal process, and a therapist can help guide you toward the best modality for you. 

Thank you again for reaching out and I wish you the best on your journey :)