How do I stop self sabotaging and motivate myself to reach my goals?

I have so many things i want to accomplish but i am constantly wasting my days doing nothing but lazing around. I have the will to do better but no energy. Ive written a schedule and planned ahead for the day but when the moment comes to take action i avoid it or feel so exhausted i want a nap. I feel a sense of anxiety or nervousness when i think about all the goals i want to reach that i will never attain if i dont find the motivation or create the drive to start..
Asked by Bubbles
Answered
12/06/2021

Hello and thank you for posting this thoughtful question. Setting daily goals is a positive first step that you have taken in order to make changes in your life, which is wonderful! Sometimes we can become overwhelmed by the prospect of change, especially when we set too many goals at once.  You may notice that when setting too many goals it's common to end up not working on any of them, as it becomes overwhelming and seemingly unattainable.  It may be helpful for you to prioritize your goals and narrow your starting point to one or two important goals at a time.  This helps to make your goals more achievable.  It's also really helpful to reward yourself for meeting goals, for instance, if you meet your one or two goals every day for a week, give yourself something special!  This could mean going out for coffee, buying yourself a small gift, or going for a manicure at the end of the week.  This will help increase your motivation to keep moving in the right direction. 

When deciding how to prioritize your goals it is also helpful to identify some in different categories.  For instance, one physical goal and one organizational goal could be, "I want to exercise more often and I want to re-organize my pantry."  This can sometimes reduce the amount of anxiety you are having by not overwhelming yourself with multiple goals in the same category.  Additionally, keep in mind that you don't have to accomplish everything in one day.  If you're trying to reorganize the pantry, and this seems like an outrageous task, set yourself a time frame to do this.  For example, "I will work on the pantry for 1 hour, and then I will take a well-deserved break."

From a holistic standpoint, it also makes sense to also explore physical reasons for your feelings of exhaustion.  Perhaps getting a routine physical and bloodwork will help to ascertain that there is nothing physical going on that may be preventing you from feeling your best.  I always like to rule out possible physiological issues first.

Change is not easy.  Take it one day at a time, reward yourself for small accomplishments, and congratulate all of your efforts.  Good luck!

(MA, NCC, LPC)