Should i seek help?
Thank-you for reaching out to betterhelp for assistance. I look forward to assisting you with your issues. It sounds like you are having some issues with initiating studying for 4 years and it takes time for you to go through a 40 minute lecture. You state that you could manage in highschool but not in college now. You stated that you procrastinate and pull all nighters to study but these all nighters don't really appear to be helping your grades. You state you have flawed study habits that caught up with you and you had to be held back a year to catch up. You stated you forget names, mix up dates, trouble getting started, your mind is in a haze sometimes. I understand how this can be very frustrating for you. I would suggest a good physical exam by a doctor to rule out and make sure you don't have any physical issues going on. Than I would suggest you apply some cognitive behavioral therapy skills. I would suggest the ABC skill. A= the activating event, B= your beliefs and thoughts and C= the outcome or consequence. The key is to challenge your thoughts and beliefs to get an outcome that will be good for you. It is obvious that your outcome would be to study, develope good study skills, sleep well and do well in school. I would challenge your thoughts and when you think of procrastinating don't and do your work. Tell yourself you can do something fun or special when you finish your school work but first do your school work. I would make lots of lists and check things off as they are completed. It always feels good to check things off as they are completed. I would work on some relaxation skills like deep breathing to relax and may progressive muscle relaxation skills. You just breathe in deeply through your nose, hold and out your mouth. This gets good oxygen to your brain. Oxygen is food for your brain and with an increase in oxygen in your brain you can think clearer and hopefully this will help your studies and to remember to do things. You can download the progressive muscle relaxation video on you tube fo 15 minutes. Lie down, close your eyes and listen to it. It might even put you to sleep. I hope some of these skills an d suggestions help you. I enjoyed assisting you and wish you the best with school and look forward to hearing from you.