Can attraction come back?

Attraction can be complicated in that it can come and go, very in intensity, or to even disappear altogether, never to return.  However, that attraction, once lost, is gone forever.  For people or couples working on rekindling or determining if rekindling of attraction is possible, I suggest the following:

First, figure out if there is a specific reason that the attraction left in the first place.  Did someone in the relationship change or seem to become a “different person?” Was there a change in relationship recently such as an engagement, marriage, or the introduction of kids? Has there been any arguments recently that caused a “shift” in how the other person in the relationship was viewed? Was there a discovery of new information that could have caused this “shift” as well? Maybe there were continuous problems within the relationship that caused the attraction to slowly diminish over time. All of these questions are critical in first establishing if there are “fixable” problems within the relationship that could help with rekindling attraction.

Secondly, if there is a reason that the attraction was lost, one must decide if working on finding/building the attraction again is actually worth it.  Finding attraction once it has gone can be an uphill process.  Once the couple commits to it, it will involve a lot of hard work and tough conversations.  There needs to be a lot of emphasis placed on resolving the underlying issues that might have led to loss of attraction in the first place.  It takes strength to be vulnerable with one another and to recognize that all the work that might go into rekindling the attraction might not yield results that both parties want.  It is important to know that any work that a person does individually or within a couple might change them. This does not necessarily mean that the person will change into somebody that the other person finds attractive.  This is extremely important because it also indicates that trying to rekindle or rebuild attraction takes a lot of open mindedness to start to figure out if the attraction can even come back and what are the ways in which a couple even attempts to find it.