Conseling/Diseases & Personality Disorders

Quite frankly…the answer is… it really depends. A counselor specializing in working with couples will have a lot of knowledge and want to help the marriage succeed. However, both people have to be committed and involved in the process. Sometimes, one or both people in a marriage have become so resentful and bitter that they want to play the blame game and prefer to point fingers at who is at fault for the marriage not succeeding. It isn't easy to help people in a marriage when things have gotten to this point.

However, if both people are committed to changing the marriage for the better, then a counselor can often help. So how do counselors who specialize in working with couples help two people repair a dysfunctional marriage? By providing them with better and more effective communication skills.

Marriage is often built up over years of habits developed by both people within the marriage. Some of these habits and ways of interacting with one another are more positive than others. A professional Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) or another therapist who specializes in working with couples can often reveal which of these patterns is working and which ones need to be broken or modified.

To accept this feedback and begin changing the less effective communication patterns, both parties have to be willing to work on how they do things and be open to change. Change can be difficult and tricky for many people. It can be scary to change a certain way of interacting or behavior you have been doing for years. If both people in the marriage are willing to do this and accept feedback from their therapist, then communication can improve.

Suppose communication between two people in a marriage becomes more effective and more positive. Then there is a greater chance that both people feel like they are getting their needs met in the marriage, like a plant that requires water and sunlight to grow. Marriage requires constant communication and attention to succeed.