Couple Conflicts - How do I approach my husband after a fight?

Hello to a very concerned marital partner and client. One of the most important aspects about your marriage is that it has withstood the distance due to your work schedules. This is strength that you want to continue to work on improving your communication with mutual respect, love and compassion.  With that being said, you are now in a new exciting and challenging chapter in your life living and connecting with each other on a daily basis. It's a new journey and you need to get to know each other in a different way. First you must think about what you want to discuss but remind yourself you need to ask your partner if this a good time to talk? When you approach your partner with this question it helps for him to get ready and if he needs time. However you know your partner may be distracted doing something which is fine. The mood will be better when you both are relaxed.  It is good to start with an agreed timeframe that will suit you and your partner. When you finally think about the question you will pose try to remember to exercise empathy. I mean look at what your partner has conveyed to you by listening, understanding then communicating with the "I" statement. This is an important example to start a safe conversation with I feel... thinking about the problem not the person in a lower calm and welcoming tone. Taking turns and reminding each other that you want to acknowledge and work to compromise on the problem at hand together. Do not use harmful words, this will push your loved one away. It's important to shift from judgment and criticism to curiosity and listening by validating each other. This is the gift of knowing no one is to blame for whatever happened. Active listening to each other's hurt and pain shows that you understand that they too have their own perspective on the matter. You must be considerate of doubts and fears by listening before you respond with love for reconciliation to re-establish your relationship. There are other relational communication skills that I have that can be used with gentle guidance to address dialogue in the here and now which helps with your relationship issues.