Friendship!

Hi, 

I sense a fear of losing your new friend from work, by not going out and drinking with her. However, you notice that you would only be drinking to please her. I'm wondering how it feels to be yourself around females? Could you tell her you don't drink? What would that be like for you? 

It sounds like you really want a friend at work, and don't want to jeopardize that friendship, but at what cost? Not being true to yourself.... I would like to explore this further with you. We could work on relationships to females, what they are like for you? Friendships in general - how they make you feel. What it's like to work with this group of people, how you feel about the groups of people. 

Your need to please others to fit in? Anything else that would help you form relationships, I work in a person-centered way and help you gain self-awareness and understand why you are struggling with these things, I help you explore this and work on self-esteem and find ways for you to build better relationships by understanding yourself and why you do the things you do.

It seems like there is some fear of losing this friend you have made and the need to have at least one friend at work is very important to you, it sounds like you feel that you like her more and I wonder why? Again that's something we can discuss through our sessions on here if you were to start therapy with me. I don't like to push you to talk about anything you don't want too, but will help and support you with whatever you are struggling with each session. You also have access to Journals and can always write to me, if you are struggling and need to get things out your head. This helps to free your mind a bit and reduce some anxiety if that is how you are feeling.

I hope I've answered your question and look forward to meeting you if you would like to book in with me.