How do I move on from a failed relationship?

Relationships involve communication and trust. Without trust you can run into paranoia, and question everything your partner is doing. You lived together so you shared an enormous amount of time together, and you will need time to get back to a new normal.

• First allow yourself time to grieve, a loss is a loss and allowing yourself the time to say goodbye in your own way is important so you feel there is a clear ending - a feeling of closure.
• You lived together, so he was the one you would discuss joys with, concerns with - find a new confidant.
• Focus on you, self care - what were things you ignored when you were with your partner?
• Busy yourself with something you enjoy, friends you didn't spend as much time with.
• Think about what you felt worked and did not work within your relationship. What made you happy? What areas concerned you?
• What are the things you can do now that he is gone? Start with the positive that has now come across your path.

As you find a new place to live - you can start to build up an environment that is completely yours. Set up an environment that shows off your strengths, the things you love, the activities, books, music, artwork that shows you as a person. 

What have you gained through the loss? Can you be confident in yourself - confident enough to allow yourself to move on and find someone who respects you the way you respect yourself. You are a strong and resilient person who deserves to be loved the way you love someone else. 

Can you think of hobbies you can start to pick up again? Maybe things that can bring others into your life - jogging with a friend, tennis or racketball (or the new one pickleball) - after active activities can you read? Listen to music? All of this can be accomplished while you move out of grief and into enjoying time with yourself, and your friends. Although you can hold on to the good memories you have, you can slowly move on knowing what has and has not been best for you in a relationship.