how do i stop being so jealous?

i get easily jealous. so jealous that i’m not even happy about the other persons situation. my roommate recently got a boyfriend and i don’t think i’ve ever been more jealous. i’ve started to become a bad friend, i don’t talk to her much and i’m never happy with what she tells me. i can feel it draining me more and more each day and i’m afraid i’m gonna loose a good friend over this. i know in the situation it’s a stupid reaction i have and that i should just suck it up until i’m alone, but i can’t help myself. i become visibly jealous and often times i leave cause it becomes too much. i know it’s because of my bad self esteem, but i just don’t know how to fix it. i’ve never really liked who i am as a person so it’s difficult to change my behavior. i wanna get help and become a better version of myself.
Asked by kb
Answered
12/06/2021
Thank you so much for sharing what you are going through with jealousy. I did receive your question and would love to touch base with you about it. I am definitely able to work with you on this issue and I'm happy you reached out. 
 
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