How to forget your parents if they mentally and physically abused you?

My parents lives in a another country . They didn't care about me. They wanted me die.i m living with my grandma. They always saying why cant you just die
Asked by shasha
Answered
12/06/2021

I am so sorry that you have had to experience such emotional and physical abuse from your parents. When abuse comes from your parents, someone who most cultures dictate should always love and care for you, it can be quite devastating. Your feeling is valid, and no one can tell you how you should feel regarding the things you have experienced. Please know that there is no excuse for abuse. Although you can't change your parents, their thoughts, their views, or magically change the way you feel about them, you can begin to break this cycle of dysfunction.

The first thing you should do is to forgive your parents. Forgiveness is an act of kindness for yourself. It isn't a magic pill that will fix everything, but it is a starting point. It is about giving yourself permission to let go of the load you have been carrying since you were a child. It takes a lot of strength to forgive anyone, but especially a parent, who has abused you. An act of sincere forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools of self-healing. It can give you a sense of peace and calm. Do it so that you can reclaim your life and let go of any anger you have been holding on to.

How can you forgive? You can write a letter to your parents to let them know how they made you feel and how deeply they have scarred you. Write out every detail that you can remember. It will be painful, but after the pain, you will experience the peace. At the end of your letter, write these words: "I forgive you." These are very powerful words and this is a choice that you are making for yourself, you inner peace, and your future.

It can be very hard to forget about your parents. You have been living yo ur life with these emotional scars. It will definitely take time to heal, but you may never actually forget. Like any traumatic experience, abuse doesn't just go away. After some time, you will be able to heal, leave the past behind, and start to move forward.