How to move on and let go of another person and bring back the lost part of you which only existed with them

Sam,

It sounds like it was a very difficult situation, and some really hard times. I am also hearing that maybe you didn't have an idea it would end that way and really feeling like it would have been a little easier if you had been able to get some more closure from the situation. It is really hard when we don't feel like we got the answers to all of the questions that we had..

It is important to remember that this is a time of grieving and grieving not only the person that isn't there in your life at this time, but also of what you thought that the future might hold for the two of you. Grief takes some time and it is important to allow yourself some space to feel all the things that you feel. 

It isn't clear from your message Sam how long ago this all happened, but if you feel that it is taking longer to start to recover from this situation than you are comfortable with I would consider seeing a mental health professional to help you make sense of everything and give you tools to manage the feelings. 

It is hard when we don't have the closure that we would like but sometimes we have to do that for ourselves, of course that is easier said than done, but a professional may be able to help you find some tools to move through that.

Sometimes it can be helpful to write a letter and say everything you need to say, even though they will never read it, it gives you a space to say your peace without having to censor yourself. We process things differently when we put language to them. 

Self care will be really important right now, making sure you are sleeping and eating so that you have the energy to deal with the emotions that come up. Maybe even trying to find some online support groups for individuals that are going through the end of a relationship.

I hope that this was at least a little helpful Sam.

Best wishes, 

Lorraine