I need help. I cannot forgive my wife for cheating on me.

Infidelity can happen in the marriage, most definitely. This, in turn can cause a wheel of emotions for the other party.

It sounds like you are responding normally to this scenario. You are depressed, hurt, in pain, and are trying to forgive her. However, you are struggling. Reaching out for help to overcome these emotions is impactful and can have substantial effects on the marriage, either positive or negative.

There are many responses you can take moving forward. Most definitely a Licensed Mental Health Professional can certainly help to process the emotions caused by this event and help you to develop a treatment plan tailored to your personal needs and your relationship dynamics. If you reflect on the marriage and relationship, what initially brought you to her? What made you choose her? What made you marry her? What is your religious status and what vows did you take? Talking to specifically a marriage and family therapist might be the best option. Depending on your religious status, you may want to consider one that is well versed in your religion and is culturally competent. Another thing to consider is gender of the therapist. Some men respond better to a woman therapist versus a male therapist if they specifically want more warmth and compassion. On the contrary, if you are interested in a more straight forward response from a manly stand point, a male therapist might be a better fit. In any sense, it is important to realize that all therapists are unique and even if you choose a therapist, you are not bound to that therapist. You have the ability to make decisions and choices to choose a new therapist that is a better fit is also a possibility.

I do wish you the very best in all you do and whatever decision you make, whether that be choosing a therapist or not, I hope you put your mental health first.