I’m having trouble with keeping relationships with friends

Jazza,

 

Please see some guidance below which might help you explore why you are finding it hard to talk with your friends. This is very common in friendships and working on yourself in sessions can help to understand the patterns.

 

We may find it hard to maintain friendships, especially if you’ve had issues trusting others in the past. It might be even harder if you’ve suffered trauma. Bullying, abusive friendships, emotionally manipulative relationships and overstepped boundaries are all examples of things that make it hard and scary for you to let someone in and open up to them.

 

It’s also harder to make new friends as you get older, rejection can be stressful and there are fewer chances to meet new people.

Working on yourself in some sessions can help you understand why and just don’t be afraid to let go of the past and work on strengthening your current relationships. 

 

If you’re having a tough time and you’re not in your best mental state it might be hard for you to maintain friendships. Your mental capacity is already too consumed by your struggling mental state or busy mind.

 

The opposite is also true, if you feel your friends are isolated then maybe they’re going through a tough time. Make sure to check up on them and ask them how they feel and what’s been going on with them. You might learn a lot.

 

When people are depressed, they tend to feel unworthy so they pull away from everyone they care about. Make sure you give your friends the attention they need or ask for it when you need it. You need to be very vocal when it comes to this because people can’t read your mind. If they know but haven’t done anything about it, then that’s on them.

 

Letting the small things slide is okay, but if you let go of too many things, it starts to take its toll on you and you get frustrated with the whole relationship, things get messy and you explode for no reason, maybe even end the friendships at times.

Thanks James