I’ve been struggling getting over a past relationship, what else can I do to get through and move on

Hello,

I am so very sorry to hear of your recent struggles to let go of the longing for your ex-partner. From what you describe, the termination of the relationship was quite painful and occurred in the context of infidelity. It is no wonder that you are finding it difficult to be at peace and let go of a man that singlehanded ended the vision you saw for your life. I have some insight related to how you can "get through and move on" from the intensely disappointing place you are in presently. Here is a list of things you can do to be intentional about letting go:

1. Write your ex-partner a letter (no need to mail this) outlining all the ways that he betrayed you, all the ways that you are disappointed in his actions, hurt by them, and saddened by the ways things turned out between the two of you.
2. Write a letter to yourself now from your future self, dictating all the wonderful things that you would want to become of your life apart from your ex-partner. Write about how you are free from feelings of pain, hurt, sadness. How you were able to overcome the intense upset that was your reaction to infidelity in your relationship and how your new partnership, home, family, etc. is everything you have ever wanted and needed. Write about how you are happy and loved and seen. 
3. Spend as much time as you can talking and thinking about what you want for your life moving forward, disconnect from your ex-partner in every single way - no social media access, no going to the old places where you used to spend time with him, it is important to build new habits and get the body used to these new habits day by day until you can start to see yourself apart from your old life with him. That life is over and letting it go in every way is in your best interest.
4. Formally release your ex-partner by burning the letter you wrote with all the hurt and pain and disappointment inside. Your feelings were put on paper so that you could feel them once more, see them once more, and release them forever more. Give yourself compassion and support and love when thoughts or dreams or feelings for him resurface! We cannot help this and to fight these things can often make it worse. Let the feelings rise to the surface and replace them with thoughts of your new life and being better off without someone who would treat you the way your ex-partner did. You deserve more, you deserve better, and you must know in every moment that you will absolutely have it.
5. Create a vision board for your future. Give yourself the love and support you would have wanted from your old partnership and from any new partnership that may come in the future.

I am wishing you all the best in this journey. You are hurt and wounded in these moments. Give yourself space to heal. Please come to the BetterHelp platform again if you have more questions.

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