Relationship/ situations situationship problem

Hi Gee,

Thank you for sharing your story and the issues that you are facing.  I'm proud to hear that you are standing in your truth and in your power.  I also like that you decided to speak with your friend. It can be a very tricky dynamic to date a friend's ex, especially if she is your best friend.  Many women would be very upset, but in this case, it seems like the relationship wasn't as strong for her, especially in comparison how he viewed it.  This also gives a big clue and indication of how he is in relationships.  

If he is not wanting a long term commitment, then I think it is best that you move on if this is what you are wanting.  Pay attention to what a guy tells you and not just playing scenarios in your head because you want to be with him or make excuses for his behavior.  Many times, women attempt to justify things instead of looking at the "here and now."  A guy that wants to be in a relationship will make the necessary steps and will voice that to you.  His words and his actions will align.  This seems important for you. At this present time, he doesn't seem like he is meeting that need and hasn't since you have been with him.  I think it is important for you to assess your energy and how you feel with him.  It sounds like you don't feel emotionally safe with him and I think that is your answer.

I'm proud of you and how you are standing firm in your boundaries.  So, don't waste your time and energy on someone who is not going to give you that in return.  Continue on in your quest of what you want and the universe will match that request.  If you tell the universe that position is filled, it will not continue to move forward to fill that "vacancy spot" to your criteria.  

Many best wishes on your journey. Stay strong and in your power of what you want and don't settle ;)