Which marriage is best?

Marriage is a beautiful commitment that people can make for a variety of reasons.  Some people get married for cultural reasons, financial reasons, legal reasons, and romantic reasons.  With divorce rates being at an all-time high, it can be easy to question what marriage is best.  When people consider that the options that they consider depend on the culture they live in.  An important thing to consider as you think about this is your own culture and influences on marriage.  For example, some people live in a culture that pressures the idea of marriage, so people that live in it will feel like they need to get married. 

 As some people consider what marriage is best, they might consider being polyamorous versus monogamous.  Again, one’s culture will somewhat influence how someone feels about these options, which is important to consider.  Remember that whether or not you decide to be polyamorous or monogamous, you and your spouse are in charge of what the parameters are in your own marriage.  For example, some polyamorous marriages allow for the spouses to have other serious relationships. In contrast, other polyamorous marriages will allow for sexual play with others, but nothing more serious than that.  In some cultures, people will consider whether or not an arranged marriage is right for them.  As you think about that, try to consider the pros and cons for yourself and agree with your culture’s values. 

Another component to consider when thinking about what marriage is best for you is to consider if you want regarding your kids.  Having children is often associated with marriage, but it should be up to each couple in reality.  Also, it can be helpful to consider what your expectations are around being married versus when you are a couple.  For example, think about if you are okay with your spouse spending time with friends or not.  Even think about if you are comfortable with your spouse being friends with someone of the sex they are attracted to.  There is no right or wrong answer there, but just important to own what your values are because the right marriage for you is the one you are comfortable with.